Two Faced People?? WHY?

We all know someone (co-worker,parents,friend,family member,lover) who is labeled as "two faced" in Societies views someone who is two faced is someone who speaks behind someone's back while not in their presence but when in their presence makes it seem as if they are the world to them. It's someone who goes behind their friends' back and says mean things or random things about them. Turns around and flips the story to make it seem like it was not really said, THAT WAY.

My opinion is that most people, who are two faced are lacking self esteem. They cannot share a friend. They do not want their TWO friends to have a Friendship. So if they can turn these two against eachother, they do not have to fear being left out if their friendship, kicks off. People who are labeled as two facer's are usually good people, but people who have suffered some form of emotional trauma causing them to really fear losing someone/something.
The fear of being replaced, sometimes it/can be extremely overwhelming for someone who has lost all their lives.

Then there's those who barely, have any friends at all and then they are somewhere and hear someone talking about you... in order to try to make conversation and fit in, will often say something innacurate about you. simply to be involved in the conversation and feel that he/she is part of something.
Am i making excuses for these people? NO! Because I've been victim of it many times and it's a horrible place to be. I am not making excuses but it is the truth. Not everyone does things to hurt others on purpose or make trouble for fun. Some people really have NO IDEA what they are doing, while doing it. it comes naturally because of Internal Emotional Scars.

so before you end up cutting off a friendship because of these things. Have a talk with your friend. Find out WHAT IS REALLY GOING ON. Chances are there's something deeper than you can see or imagine... not all people are out there trying to hurt you for the sake of hurting

The fear of change... WILL make your life hard.

There are times when we are so trapped into a downward spiral of self hate that the thought of change makes you feel sick. What if? What if not? What If?  These questions keep you back.... What if I end up alone and lonely if i leave this abusive relationship? You can answer that two ways,
What if i  leave and i'm soo happy and/or What if i stay and he/she kills me?

Don't you think that there is often a good reason to use a what if? but instead we use the what if's as negative statements and thoughts and it keeps us in the situations we are in. People are so afraid of the new, of the unknown, of change. They rather stay in their rotten livestyles, abusive relationships, drug infested life  than risk  feeling something brand new.

Self hate also comes from saying.. I hate my life. I hate that i don't have nothing. I hate that i'm broke. I hate that i'm trapped in this loveless marriage/relationship. I hate. I hate. I Hate. okay, so now that we established what you hate.  WHAT are YOU DOING to CHANGE your situation???
aaaaaaah!!!! There's the question right there... Isn't it time you start doing something to better your life, rather than complaining about what you don't  like? don't fear change.. it's for the better..

go! go! go!!   It's your life.. LIVE IT and LOVE IT

Loving yourself is letting go pt1

Loving yourself begins from a deep analysis of WHY and WHAT you don't like about yourself? If you think your fat, is it because someone always told you that you were fat? If you believe your stupid, did someone always call you dumb growing up? Do you feel your not worthy of real love? did someone abandon you while you were growing up, made you feel less than others, sisters, brothers, family?  You have to really sitt there and really think about it...

Once you have done that you have to realize that NO ONE can make you feel anything that you do not let them feel. You have to find it within yourself to compliment yourself every day about at least two things. Find something your good at, cooking? dressing up? being a mother? sing? draw? do you make people laugh? do you dance well? anything. find something you are good, at. give yourself credit

Don't wait for someone to compliment you because chances are you can wait forever, people these days are cruel and rather critic than compliment. you have to find the beauty within yourself, love yourself and always be dependent on no one but yourself.  You cannot allow your past to ruin your future....

We have to accept that we have been treated bad, neglected and made to feel less than human at one point in time in our lives but are we going to let that ruin our lives forever? that is allowing those people to win over you. You need to really sit there and focus on what you want in life and not allow no one to take that away from you. no one can take your happiness away but yourself

YOU make me PULL MY HAIR.. ARRGGH

Royalty? When? We all have a specific person, a friend a lover or a family member who swears they are royalty. Like everything you do for them is never good enough, if you do something it has to be right on time, not one minute late. Everything has to be perfect for them. You have to show them the most respect and speak to them in a specific tone cause if you don't they might just think your being "smart" Now, When it comes to these people, doing something for you or anyone else for that matter.....

They are always late, You have to repeat yourself more than three times. They get an attitude when you do, like rushing them is no fun, yet they rush you like your on the clock. They always find a way to critize what you do, or don't do. They will find a flaw in the best of your efforts. These people are very annoying to be around, Yet we LOVE THEM, why?

Because these people, deep down are the most loving and caring people in the world, being a grandmother, a lover or a friend.. These people have really NO IDEA that they are being this way, You can even tell them, Your being a real idiot right now and they look right at you like HUH?!?!

It takes, time and patience ESPECIALLY if this is someone you are in a Relationship, with. You have to really, let it be known often that they are being this way if you keep it in, bottled in its not going to help you any more than if you just argued with them all the time. The best approche? cool,calm and collective. Decent, grown conversation. Without yelling, pointing fingers and major accusations

The royalty with them is often something they have no idea about so sometimes we have to let them know. YOUR NOT always RIGHT and it's OKAY for OTHER PEOPLE to have OPINIONS also.    It's a rough ride but often worth it because these people are very loyal to their friends and loved ones.

Music Lifts your Spirits

Have you ever just felt like crap in the morning, gotten in your car turned the radio on or a cd and then all of a sudden your worries were lifted from you and you felt brand new? Have you ever heard a song that you usually would not listen too ie: a different genre. Then all of a sudden you feel like you could move mountains? This is because music is letters and sounds put together in every letter there is a sound that resonates through our souls. With every melodie there is also a sound that is also linked to our soul and that put together into a song, which carry emotions are cleansing and healing to the soul.

There are times if you listen to a bit more more of the same song or a little less of one. You would feel extremely better. Music is much more than what we perceive it to be as listeners only someone who composes the melodie/sounds, lyrics and other could possibly understand exactly what it means. I suggest that you start playing with music in order to figure it out for yourself, what works for you. what makes you want to grab a hold of your life, change it and make the most of your life. Try It. You won't be disappointed

There are a few songs based on melodies and letters alone mixed with the beats that are for uplifting I am going to suggest them in here and go ahead, try and see what happens :)


Beautiful you are (women especially)
fireflies (listen to this with your eyes closed)
Only Time
Feed The hungry

These are just a few... There's also vibrations to EVERY name on the planet. Yes! The way you spell your name can signify your luck in love, life, careers and even financially.

The Media is full of crap

There is so much hate in the world, these days. Everytime you turn on the tv someone has shot someone, someone got stabbed, someone was murdered, abducted, raped, abused, neglected.

Why can we never turn on the tv and see someone who has given a dollar to someone in need? Someone who helped someone do the dishes (as simple as it seems) someone who helped a man or woman who was stranded.  Of course not because media feeds off the negative and the bad things that happen in the world only makes me believe it attracts more and more.
People want to be famous or celebrities these days? kill someone or get pregnant at 15 your gonna be on the news hell you might even get your own show. It makes no sense whatsoever. I really want people to try everyday  to do something kind for someone else. You never know how much you can change someone's life with a simple act of kindness.

When you do something for someone do it from the heart, not with intentions of getting something back or getting recognition for it because then you might be let down do it because you want TO DO IT. If you take care of other people, the Universe will take care of you and BLESS YOU
It's YOUR life, LOVE it but allow someone else to LOVE theirs Also.

Some ME time PLEASE

There is only a certain amount of  Readings and Helping people someone like me can do A DAY. I LOVE MY CLIENTS. I LOVE OFFERING THEM GUIDANCE. But sometimes people have to understand that I NEED REST too. Without rest how can I be full of energy to help you and other people who need help? I do work around the clock, if someone needs me, I WILL wake up. But that does not mean that I DONT go to sleep. sometimes I do SLEEP and when I DO. I LOVE IT *L* SO please try to understand that I am only human.

I think that is the biggest misconception of Clairvoyant and Psychics is that because we do and know what we know that we can somehow function on other realms than regular people. no. We eat and Sleep and drink water like the rest of society. So next time someone is not online when you need them please, understand and don't send hate mail and aggressive letters because it won't help your case. I am not saying this is something that has happened to me, but it has happened to other people i know that clients expect them to be there twenty four seven  seven days a week. That's not possible.

Now Speaking of me, time. YOU all need me time.. So every day EVERYONE should take 1 hour for themselves. no MATTER how BUSY you are. You need some time to relax and take care of you. LIVE YOUR LIFE and LOVE YOUR LIFE

Love does still exist

 There's so many ways to look at love, So many people over the years have used the words " I Love You" only to make them wrong. While lying and hurting people, using the only words we had to really show and let someone know we loved them truly. There is still real love out there. Loving someone where you listen to a song and it brings a moment in your heart that awakens and it brings butterflies in your stomach. There is still that love that when you see your partner of "X" number of years you still feel nervous, you still blush, you still look your best and get pretty/handsome for him/her. There is still the love where you put someone's needs before your own. wanting them to be happy, because just knowing that they are happy, makes you happy inside.

That's love that's not selfish. there are so many people these days that put restrictions on love and bad things on love. Oh IF he loved you he would do this and do that, if she loved you she would do this and that... WHO are YOU to say what is right and what is wrong? Just because someone does not agree with the way you are loving or being loved, does not make it wrong. Don't ever allow someone to tell you that your way of loving or being loved is not the "right way" now unless of course there is abuse involved because love is not abuse. not emotionally, spiritually, physically nor sexually no one suffers in love.

But I want people to know that real love does still exist sometimes it's not easy because when your in a relationship where real love is living. Things happen to test us. We bump into roads that have turns and bumps and dead ends, where we have to turn around and do it all over again with the same person just to let each-other know things are going to be alright. Whenever and Wherever there's real love. There's no need to fear because at the end of the day you can get through anything together.

Everyone argues, Everyone has disagreements. It's not because of an argument that you can let someone tell you that things are not real ... keep that in your head and in your heart..

It's your life... LOVE IT & LIVE IT

It's the Simple things in life that bring happiness

It's the simple things in life, that bring real happiness. Diamonds, gold and material things are not going to get you very far in life, if you are not loved nor loving yourself. Those who love you because you already have all those materialistic things, won't stand by you when you would lose it all. Trust me, When it comes to love, the simple things mean and matter the most. When someone breaks up, with you. what is the first that that usually crosses your mind? I sure miss the damn toilet seat he left up, even when i complained about it. not " i miss the rings he use to buy me" That is never the first thing on someone's mind. Let's face it. We are all attracted to material things because it's installed into us from an early age. Those with money get more. If you knew how many people who are well off financially who are unhappy, in their personal life because all that money and nothing and no one worthy of sharing it with. Sometimes it's just not worth it.

Don't focus on being rich in life, focus on being happy and loved and loving. That is going to bring you more than money can ever do you for you. now, don't get me wrong. Money is great and we all love it, want it and need it. But at the end of the day. Money alone is NOT enough to keep you happy, completely happy. You have to aime higher than a nice pay check. Just try that. Focus on happy little things and you will notice that your riches improve on their own. Your money flow will increase just because you are not being greedy. Just because you settle for less but could use more. The universe will work with you. That's a Promise.

Its YOUR LIFE. Live it and LOVE IT

Focusing on the bad ruins it all

There are so many times where i catch myself speaking to people and at the end of my conversation with them. I'm just exhausted I feel like the world just landed on my shoulders. No matter how much you try to make a light joke, no matter how much you try to show them a bit of positive they are stuck on the negative. That really drags someone down. I wrote on my status today that if people stopped being so serious and took things light heartedly a bit more life would be so much better. The world would be a better place.

Look at children as prime examples. They don't know the worries of the world. They don't know what being bitter, angry, sour and just plain ignorant is. So they don't show any long-term emotion other than happiness. Sure they get mad and cry and scream when they want something (but that's them learning) after two minutes of that they are back to laughing and playing.  How many times can we say that something makes us angry, sad or just turns our world upside down and ten minutes later we are perfectly fine? not often. Most of us dwell on those things for whole days if not weeks.

If you learn to let things go, sure reflect on them, get mad, cry, scream and then get over it. You will see that your whole day does not have to be affected. Your whole life does not have to be shattered by something that happened that was out of your control to begin with. so many of us are spending too many hours in a day complaining, bitching and whining about things that we cannot change. So let's try to slow that down and eventually stop that. If you cannot control it, leave it alone. If it's out of your power don't try to over power it. You will only end up miserable with messed up days.

Enjoying your life, begins with you and how you handle things thrown your way.

Love Life

Progress, Does it mean leaving others behind?

There are times when it really feels like the world as given up, on you. Things are all falling apart, nothing seems to be working. People don't listen, everyone is judging you and misjudging you. It feels like your completely alone and like someone is holding you a prisoner in your own heart, life and soul. These are times where you have to look at yourself, from within. Did you do something to limit your own path? Are you keeping yourself in a situation that's not good for you? Are you trying to help someone who does not want to help themselves in life?  Waiting on your partner to progress while he's just sitting around not wanting to progress mentally and spiritually?

These are things that can have you feeling heavy and just stuck. A feeling of unknown and aggravation. It doesn't have to stay that way. You have the ability to move forward from any situation. Does that mean that you have to let go of your partner? of your friends? No it doesn't It means that you continue moving forward on your path, Doing what feels good to you. They will realize it's the right way to go, and follow (catch up) or they won't but that will be their decision. YOU will be fine... The only way for YOU to be fine is progress. 

It happens, so more often in Friendships than relationships because for the most part relationships are based on equal thought and emotions. (not often but we touch on that on another time) But Friendships are what causes confusion a lot of times.  Your friends with someone and it's the same routine, drinking, partying, going out, getting so drunk you can't remember things, doing too much of nothing and not enough of something. so all of a sudden your like okay. This is NOT productive. I need to change my life style.  What is going to happen is.

Your going to find a path of progression doing better for yourself, achieving things. Your friend is either going to say. wow. I can have all that too if i stop the lack of responsibility in your life and move forward or your friend is going to call you a trader and keep going with the drinking only to realize few years down the road that they missed out on a whole lot

At the end of the day you have to do what feels RIGHT to YOU. LIVE and LOVE YOURS LIFE.
You cannot make someone learn responsibility before their time. Some people will go through a whole lifetime of wasting years and end up 60 unhappy and nothing to fall back on. That is NOT your responsibility

If they follow, they follow. If they don't.... Do not stop yourself :)

Abusers and Abused.. men or women its NONO

How many times have we heard a friend, sister, brother...etc. Telling us that they got into an argument with their significant other and things got rough, either he slapped the crap out of her or she swung at him with a lamp. Do you really feel this is right? NO! Its completely wrong. NO one should ever raise their hands on someone they love. Dating abuse. Relationship Abuse. Marital Abuse all these things need to be stopped. It's not okay to remain in an abuse relationship. Now there's all kinds of Abuses but TODAY I am touching on the Physical aspect of things.

There is something in common that all abusers have, whether they are men or women. After the fact they are always sorry, they will never do it again. They are not sure what got into them. If someone is REALLY sorry, after the first time it happens, they will be signing up for counseling, therapy and anger management classes. If someone is NOT really sorry, They will just be OKAY until the next time they flip out and you get an ass-whipping again.

I want YOU (abused) To read this clearly. YOU are NOT to REMAIN a victim in a situation like this You are TO LEAVE. Go to a shelter for women (and there are some for men also) Call 911 do WHAT you have to do but leave that house before you end up, DEAD. It begins with slow fits of rage but escalates very quickly. It's NOT your fault. (unless you hit first then you are the ABUSER) but if you are not hitting and you get hit you are a VICTIM and you need to get help

I want YOU (The Abuser) To read this clearly. YOU are NOT to lay hands on a woman nor a man. You are going through repressed anger from the past. Perhaps even a past life. many factors key in here. It does not make you a bad person, but you really need some help. Call a psychologist, psychiatrist, doctor. Someoen who can help you understand your feelings and emotions and learn to control them. If you want to CHANGE there is a way....

The most important thing here. If you have CHILDREN PLEASE PLEASE leave right away, bring the kids. We do not need a world of children who have grown up to watch abusive behavior to keep the cycle going. Let's work today for a better more peaceful tomorrow.

Is money evil? or is the need evil?

We are living in a time, Where LOVE is what we are ALL searching for but MONEY is what we really NEED. Society, Government has made money take over love. We are fighting in relationships because theres not enough money to go around. We are stressed because we are working two jobs in order to put food on the table. there's no time to sleep, Your husband or wife leaves for work when you get home for work. You no longer spending time together, as a family. Things are falling apart.

We need to realize that money is only going to be a problem, as long as we allow it to be a problem. The less we need it, the less we are looking for it the more it will come towards you. It's nothing new that we here people saying "aaah it's always the same ones that win the lottery or bingo. its the ones with the money that don't need it" That's because they do not focus on winning or getting money. they don't want it or need it.

Sure we all need money, because it does make the world go'round. But don't lose yourself voer a dollar. Don't risk your health, your relationship and your life over a dollar.  When you die, from stress you cannot take that dollar with you.

Focus on enjoying the simple things in life and You WILL be BLESSED with money. 

Useless argument or Lesson in the making?

There's times in life where things happen that are completely out of our control. It's easy when we have a falling out with our best-friend or our significant other, parents. To blame them right off the bat. It's THEIR fault. I didn't do anything. okay, that's when you take a deep breath and you say. okay, I didn't do anything TODAY. Maybe the argument stems from something that has been done by you in the past. As friends and Lovers we often let things slide, but after enough is enough we tend to want to just OKAY. Your going to have to learn this the hard way and give someone a taste of their behavior.
It happens to the best of us, We always find it so much easier to blame someone else, than to actually consider that we're part of the problem, not the solution. What we have to learn is to become part of the solution. Work towards not pointing the finger so fast. Besides, we all learn from every situation in our lives. These are lessons to help us progress on our paths. If we don't learn, we don't progress.  Which means more than likely we're going to go through the same thing. over and over again until we learn the lesson which we are suppose to. So next time someone is angry with you, not speaking to you or just has words for you. Try not blaming them right away, try seeing what really happened to lead to this point.

I am not saying to be the subject of abuse because it's something you must of did. I'm talking about random little fights. not physical or psychologically abusive arguments/fights. I'm talking about those arguments you keep having over and over with the people in your life



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The Rain & The emotional Benefits

When we wake up, to seeing rain, We have a tendency to say awwww shyt, another boring rainy day. The rain is the earth cleansing itself, giving humidity to the ground in order to bring life to earth. What we need to do on rainy days is take some time to reflect on things. Cry, Write down your sorrows and problems. Then let the rain wash it away. When the sun shines again, forget about the negativity and the the attraction for the sun in your own life.

Forget about your can'ts and won'ts and focus on the I CAN and I WILL. The sun shinning again after a rainy day gives people energy an drive to go outside and do things again. So after you've flushed your heartaches with the rainy day. Your soul is ready for some positive.
So Let go of the rain and let the sunshine within you. so next time you wake up to a rainy day, don't curse. dont be dissapointed. Instead use this as your Emotional cleaning day......When the sun shines again everything will be fresh and right.......

You dont have to believe me, though...................... Try it

Suicidal clients

There are some clients who come to us, daily that really need a psychologist.  The moment a client tells us of suicidal thoughts. The need/want to die or harm themselves or others. We need to remove ourselves from their journey and guide them towards a psychologist, counselor or even have them call 911 and find immediate help. It's one thing to be depressed and fed up, for a day or two. It happens to all of us. But when someone is speaking about dying and just trying to end their life over something as a relationship, child, parent, school this is someone who truly needs some psychological help. sure, if we wanted too we could really help them for a day or so but as soon as those feelings re-appear then they need the whole treatment all over again. I cannot speak for every expert but i do not want someone's life in my hands. That is to much responsibility for me.

I am here to help people on their Journeys when they are ready to make positive changes in their own lives and want me as a compass. as a map. not as the driver. I'll help you fuel your car but i won't drive that motha for you....  Please,  Psychics. Clairvoyants, healers and mediums. Be careful on how you treat people who have suicidal tendencies. 


 If you or someone you know, is/having suicidal thoughts please call the number below.. if it's extreme emergency please dial 911

• Call 1-800-SUICIDE / 1-800-784-2433
• Call 1-800-273-TALK / 1-800-273-8255

Can I get a connection?

Can you be a bit more specific, please?  Let me explain something to some of you....   A connection is something that I can give you ( details on a situation, speaking of something going on in your life that i should know nothing about that you can confirm) A connection is not telling you an answer to a question that you have no idea the answer yourself. How, can I possibly provide a connection when your question is " Does Bill love me" please give me information and an answer as a connection. HMM NO!

I  am not going to be giving you free information and free readings just because you think you are smart enough to con me into giving you information. Whoever invented that "connection" scenario was a whole lot of wrong. We may be taboo a bit still in some places known as psychics but we are no fools.  I can only speak for myself here but I very rarely read for free. It may happen from time to time in order to help a friend or even to offer advice quickly to someone who is in need.

This does not mean, I'm about to give it up, for free. Lately there has been  a serious increase in people contacting me wanting information then telling me "show me connection please"  I am going to warn you in advance. You won't get a reply from me and more than likely your going to get blocked also.  You've been warned. Please dont try the game with me

Can I get a free reading PLEASE

I have a problem, with people who come to me thinking, I'm an idiot. Please don't come to me begging me for a reading because you tell me your life depends on it. Soon as you ask your question you say. " I have seen this guy on the bus, does he want me" " am i going to have sex tonight" " is my dentist going to leave his wife for me he looks at me in a loving way"  These are NOT major life issues and it's not a "need" to get a reading about these things. I'm really feeling that people these days, have their priorities extremely mixed up.   We are Readers are here to make a living as any other person in any other profession. We cannot and WILL not for the most part do readings for free left and right. You want some advice and Guidance pay for it as you would a lawyer or a webdesigner. After all it's our time and energies put into it.....  Would you work for free?

Seriously??? Have you stopped to think about it?

There are some clients that come to me at times and I simply cannot believe the heartache they put on their own lives. so miserable, blaming everyone except themselves for their lives.  cursing and spitting at the universe because things didn't happen the way they wanted it too, on time. I have heard this so many times I'm waiting for good news, why is it not coming im tired of this shit wow! so positive. I'm sure you are attracting positive because that's what your sending out, right? wrong! You are receiving exactly what your throwing into the universe. I love to call the universe a boomerang. It comes back at you full blast and hits you with what you put out.  Stop, for two minutes next time before complaining and actually try to but something positive out there.  

Then I have the clients who want to blame, God, The angels, The planet and even the weather because they are unhappy. I hear so often This is crap, everyday i keep asking for a sign of something good all i get is shit really? Perhaps it's because your so focused on seeing negative, that you turn a good thing into a bad thing?  The power of thinking is a strong factor in happiness. If you wake up, telling yourself your going to have a crappy, day. Guess what? You have already flicked the crappy, switch on. If you open your eyes. Thank God and the Universe for one more day, Tell yourself your going to make the most out of it. Today's going to be a good day, Your going to notice a lot of change in your life.

Sure, it's not always going to be perfect just because you told yourself,so. But your going to be mentally able to focus on fixing the mishaps, why? Because you have told yourself and accepted that at the end of the day. Today has been a good day and your going to get through it....

Happiness, comes from within. It's the TRUTH!

Not your average

I am begining to become very aggrevated and fustrated with the belief that all "Spiritual Workers" Psychics,Clairvoyants, Healers must be on holier than thou behavior, twentyfourseven. I cannot and will not speak for every other worker on the planet. However, here's my piece. I am a normal woman. I go through regular life situations. Relationships. Issues. Friendsships, Broken friendships. I am not going to be writing in my blog about being better than anyone else. I am not going to write 100 ways to make the man you love, love you back if indeed he does not love you.

You won't hear any spell stories. ways to make someone love you against their free wil. Your going to be reading regular posts, with a twist of Clairvoyance and Psychic perception on things. I do not believe that there is anything wrong, with readers, psychics and healers who offer blogs of hours and hours of typing about what are soulmates about, how to tell if someone's cheating.. etc.... The truth is, We are Given this ability to help each client on case, by case basis. We cannot go ahead and throw all the peas in one pot. Not one relationship, nor prediction can be based on a situation that happened in your own personal belief. course, we can use our personal experience to be compassionate and relate to clients but our "personal disbeliefs of certain things" cannot be used in our readings.

Our opinions on "gay relationships, marriage or sexual relationships"
Our opinions on "Interracial Dating, Marriage, Relationship or sexual relationships"
Our opinions on "Affairs, Cheaters, Cheating, Threesometes, Swingers"

Those three specifc areas should never be a reason to judge a client.....
Again, I'm just human. I never claimed to be perfect but there are certain things that clients need to be aware of while choosing a psychic reader. If someone makes you feel like your a horrible person because of certain things that you do, based on their beliefs. Even argue with you about it. They are being unethical and you need to find another Worker to help and guide you.