The victim, Seriously. All the time?

It can happen, once or twice heck maybe three times.. BUT

There are situations in this life that we all fall into, We sometimes bump into a road we didn't want it, suffer at the hands and expense of someone else. We are sometimes, abused, neglected and we will sometimes feel alone and lonely.  But is it possible that we "also sometimes" create this for ourselves?
There are patterns with certain people, where they are always the victim. They start a rumor, at the end of the week they end up, caught and hurt (it's someone elses fault) 

They cheat on a test and end up, flunking in a class (it's someone elses fault)
They lie and cheat on their partner's get dumped. are left lonely and alone (oh it HAS TO BE something the other person did)

They are miserable and it's always because of him and her and them and anyone but themselves.

Only, once we accept that we are completely responsible for our actions and things that happen in our lives will we be able to be completely happy. It's start to stop complaining about what we don't want and act towards attracting what we do want.

no one wants a cry baby around. If your over the age of 25 and your still running to family and friends to get you through EVERYTHING because its EVERYONE's FAULT but your OWN you need a reality check. life is NOT easy. not for YOU not for ME but we have to work hard to get the happiness that we want.
accept responsibility, admit to not being perfect and watch how your life begins to change :)

Goodness.. can you be quiet?

Ever have someone in your life who you tried to help as much as possible. Whether it be a friend, lover or family member. You did everything in your power to help them get their life on track, get their heart and head on straight and then you finally realize all that hardwork and patience was a big whole waste of energy on your part because 90% of the things they told you they didn't do or did was just a bunch of made up, lies and some kind of fantasy in their own head and life? There comes a time when people like that have to be completely, cut out of your life. Why? Because as long as you keep people like this in your life, you will never progress because you are going to be drained.

Emotionally, and psychologically drained. We sometimes call these people Emotional Vampires because they suck the life, energy and happiness out of you so quickly, it's almost like spraying on cement on your body. There's so many people who don't realize that they are this way. I always call them the Lying/truths. They believe everything they tell, even if it's a lie. I mean if they tell you that they are Jesus! they are Jesus! Don't tell them no different. You ask them for the truth and honesty and they feed you "their truth" which equals a bold lie. That is not people you want to keep in your life. Clear these people out of your lives. It's not like it's a hard task to do, because you will be able to tell who these people are just from being around them you feel heavy, agitated and just confused at times. Because you cannot understand WHAT or WHY things are coming out of their mouths the way they are.

Sometimes you just gotta tell people to Just ~be QUIET~  

Love YOUR LFIE..... CLEAN UP the PEOPLE WHO SURROUND YOU :)

Stop waiting for someone to MAKE YOU LOVE YOU.

It really breaks my heart when certain people come my way and i hear them tell me that because they got left they are not worthy of a good man/woman. not worthy of happiness because something had to be wrong with them if their partner walked out on them. Perhaps the relationship, was just not ment to be. Perhaps that person was just not good enough for YOU. Perhaps there was more con's than pros in your relationship. Why is it that as soon as something goes wrong you want to turn things into being your fault.


Just because someone walks out of your life, Relationship, family, friends it does not mean that you automaticly become less of a loving person. You are suppose to love yourself no matter what. When you realize that no one can bring you down BUT YOURSELF. You will notice that you attract people that want to love you, cherish you and respect you. When you believe in giving everyone the ability to give you your worth your going to be sold short. someone is going to take advantage of you. You really need to not let people get the best of you.


When you say I AM WORTHY OF RESPECT and LOVE you will get nothing less because you won't tolerate it

His fault. Her fault. never my fault

Taking responsibilities for your own actions instead of blaming everyone around you. It's so easy to blame people. I will say that at the end of the day, you will get nowhere and learn nothing if you do not accept that sometimes you make mistakes, heck. We all make mistakes.

Yes! Even me, I am only human. It's easy ti blame the car infront of us for being late to work. Blame your ex boyfriend for being cranky and paranoid in every relationship. Blame your highschool teacher because you failed on a test. Blame your co-workers because you hate your job and you swear they are kissing the boss's butt.  It's sooo easy to focus on everything besides yourself.

Take the time to really think about things. Look at your life, what is going wrong in it? what do you want to change? Do you have the power to do something about it? Then do it, stop waiting for everything to fall on your lap. It's true that everything happens in divine timing and the path you are on has been written for you and this and that. but it does not mean you can and should go through your whole life, lazy and blaming all people surrounding you for your mistakes and the mishaps in your life.

The moment you take responsibility and work towards change in your own life. you will see things changing for the better for you. go ahead! TRY IT

The fear of change... WILL make your life hard.

There are times when we are so trapped into a downward spiral of self hate that the thought of change makes you feel sick. What if? What if not? What If?  These questions keep you back.... What if I end up alone and lonely if i leave this abusive relationship? You can answer that two ways,
What if i  leave and i'm soo happy and/or What if i stay and he/she kills me?

Don't you think that there is often a good reason to use a what if? but instead we use the what if's as negative statements and thoughts and it keeps us in the situations we are in. People are so afraid of the new, of the unknown, of change. They rather stay in their rotten livestyles, abusive relationships, drug infested life  than risk  feeling something brand new.

Self hate also comes from saying.. I hate my life. I hate that i don't have nothing. I hate that i'm broke. I hate that i'm trapped in this loveless marriage/relationship. I hate. I hate. I Hate. okay, so now that we established what you hate.  WHAT are YOU DOING to CHANGE your situation???
aaaaaaah!!!! There's the question right there... Isn't it time you start doing something to better your life, rather than complaining about what you don't  like? don't fear change.. it's for the better..

go! go! go!!   It's your life.. LIVE IT and LOVE IT

Loving yourself is letting go pt1

Loving yourself begins from a deep analysis of WHY and WHAT you don't like about yourself? If you think your fat, is it because someone always told you that you were fat? If you believe your stupid, did someone always call you dumb growing up? Do you feel your not worthy of real love? did someone abandon you while you were growing up, made you feel less than others, sisters, brothers, family?  You have to really sitt there and really think about it...

Once you have done that you have to realize that NO ONE can make you feel anything that you do not let them feel. You have to find it within yourself to compliment yourself every day about at least two things. Find something your good at, cooking? dressing up? being a mother? sing? draw? do you make people laugh? do you dance well? anything. find something you are good, at. give yourself credit

Don't wait for someone to compliment you because chances are you can wait forever, people these days are cruel and rather critic than compliment. you have to find the beauty within yourself, love yourself and always be dependent on no one but yourself.  You cannot allow your past to ruin your future....

We have to accept that we have been treated bad, neglected and made to feel less than human at one point in time in our lives but are we going to let that ruin our lives forever? that is allowing those people to win over you. You need to really sit there and focus on what you want in life and not allow no one to take that away from you. no one can take your happiness away but yourself

YOU make me PULL MY HAIR.. ARRGGH

Royalty? When? We all have a specific person, a friend a lover or a family member who swears they are royalty. Like everything you do for them is never good enough, if you do something it has to be right on time, not one minute late. Everything has to be perfect for them. You have to show them the most respect and speak to them in a specific tone cause if you don't they might just think your being "smart" Now, When it comes to these people, doing something for you or anyone else for that matter.....

They are always late, You have to repeat yourself more than three times. They get an attitude when you do, like rushing them is no fun, yet they rush you like your on the clock. They always find a way to critize what you do, or don't do. They will find a flaw in the best of your efforts. These people are very annoying to be around, Yet we LOVE THEM, why?

Because these people, deep down are the most loving and caring people in the world, being a grandmother, a lover or a friend.. These people have really NO IDEA that they are being this way, You can even tell them, Your being a real idiot right now and they look right at you like HUH?!?!

It takes, time and patience ESPECIALLY if this is someone you are in a Relationship, with. You have to really, let it be known often that they are being this way if you keep it in, bottled in its not going to help you any more than if you just argued with them all the time. The best approche? cool,calm and collective. Decent, grown conversation. Without yelling, pointing fingers and major accusations

The royalty with them is often something they have no idea about so sometimes we have to let them know. YOUR NOT always RIGHT and it's OKAY for OTHER PEOPLE to have OPINIONS also.    It's a rough ride but often worth it because these people are very loyal to their friends and loved ones.