Loving someone who hates themselves.....

We always talk about " You cannot love someone until you LOVE YOURSELF" What happens, when your on the receiving end of this situation? It's not an easy situation to love someone so much that you would do anything for them. Love them, support them, be there for them. Even when THEY do not believe in themselves. Your their wings when they cannot fly, Your their voice of reason when they give up on themselves. But, How long can you DO THIS before you start to feel like your doing EVERYTHING in the relationship? How long before you begin feeling like your putting everything in, while the other person is taking everything and not giving nothing back. Love/Relationships should come with a balance of energy exchange if your giving everything without receiving your going to go dry emotionally, feeling like you ran a marathon without a drink of water nor sneakers. If you always get and never give. Your going to end up, seeing your partner sad and dissatisfied.


It's becoming a problem with women these days, they are so eager to please their man. They will stop at nothing to make him happy, while he's taking it all in, at the end of the day does this really help him? Does it only create a bigger space for him to turn into his own self hating mode? I mean this is not only women who do this for men, some men do for their women also with extreme but for the most part it's woman who do for men, By nature we are caretakers, we want to save and heal the world.

There are some people in relationships that just want someone for the pity. If you leave me, I'll kill myself. If you leave me, I don't know what i'll do. If IF IF and it scares the other person into staying. I've realized if someone needs you THAT MUCH to survive they are not living to begin with and they need some serious guidance and help. Do not DO NOT send yourself into EMOTIONAL PRISON for someone who is living a life trapped in unhappiness and sorrow. You can only, help them so much

Its sad but at the end of the day we all have to let go of something, to follow our true calling <3

I'll change... This time I'll change ???

 Alright.... So we've all had someone in our own life ( relationship) or had a friend who dealt with this in a relationship. They are in a repetitive  abusive relationship. (Emotional abuse, Verbal abuse, Mental Abuse) all these are as bad as Physical Abuse. These are all situations in which the person who is dominant in the relationship, Always uses their power over the person who NEEDS. When you believe you NEED someone, You want them so much that you believe ANYTHING they are telling you. It's always the same words. " I'll change, I'm sorry I really mean it..... I'll change" Then we fall and bend the rules, AGAIN. We drop our anger and we drop our decisions of walking away. We then are allowing the abuse to continue.  These abusers don't care about changing, they will not change unless we remove ourselves from the situation and allow them to see what they are doing.

Giving them the chance, to keep abusing is NOT LOVING THEM. It's only allowing them to keep hurting you, themselves and their life. If you are a Victim of Abuse. You HAVE TO WALK AWAY. Allow the person you LOVE to get the help that they deserve. If this is really love, If this man/woman really loves you, loves the relationship, loves their family. They are going to want the help, seek the help, get the help and walk a path of righteousness. They will find a way to make themselves better.

I know, a lot of people say that " once an abuser, always an abuser" that is NOT true. Alot of people who abuse their loved ones. have MANY emotional ISSUES that they have to deal with and have repressed angers. With therapy and counseling often this helps ... THEY CANNOT CHANGE without the help.

If you really love the person in your life who is abusing you, If your friend really loves their abusive partners. Tell them to walk away, walk out and allow them to get the help they seek.... If it's really ment to be it will happen all over again, once they are emotionally, mentally and psychologically healed

Do not hang around in the Abusive relationship waiting of the change to happen because it won't as long as u fall for the " I'll change speech" You are giving them another ticket to hurt, abuse you and hurt themselves more and more over and over again...............

If you are being physically abused........ call 911 and do not hesitate to walk away.............

*Love DOES NOT HURT*
 This is a song about Spousal Abuse *Love is Blind*
 

addicted to self induced pain?

Yesss! I'm coming back with a BANG. okay not a bang *L* but at least a hollerrrr..  I have experienced a few things these last few weeks. I have been dealing with certain people who i have really tried hard to help. Actually, lost money helping, lost time helping, lost alot of energy and at the end of these three weeks I'm looking around and I cannot see anything productive that has come out of it. It's almost like i spent my whole time speaking to myself.  I have been made fun of and called "Intelligent" with a smurk face more than once. Telling me, "Oh so your so intelligent.... why do you even care"  but... It's trying to get someone to understand that LIFE IS NOT ALWAYS FAIR but ITS ALWAYS going to have a PURPOSE regardless.

There's a time when you just have to let go trying to help someone who does not want to help themselves you cannot send yourself in a hole, even into depression for making someone else's life better. There is always going to be that someone who says "I'm never drinking again, because they feel sick then soon as they are better they got the bottle in their hand" There's always going to be the person who runs back into the abuser's arms after the fight is over. There will always be the people who are attracted to sadness, hardship. Now, from what i am feeing here always is that there are victims then there are those who LOVE TO BE playing the victim role., They can be the center of attention. get all the attention and then they go right back to the situation and all over again.

There is no way that we can help these people UNTIL they are completely, aware that they are addicted to self inflicted pain. Once they begin to understand what is really going on, they can begin accepting the help that you have to offer. until then it's going to be a battle with someone who does not listen