Why, I'm a good Clairvoyant/Psychic for YOU

 There's always a time in our lives where we wonder What's next? Is he or She the one? Is this person or that person honest? Am I going to get that promotion? Is my finances going to get better? How about my health?  Wellll It's easy these days to log on to the internet and find a whole selection of Psychics online. The problem with this is that NOT all Psychics are LEGIT.  Not all LEGIT psychics are HONEST. 


You do not want a Reader who is going to tell you lies, Feed you what you want to hear. Your needing a reader who is going to tell you the truth. You want someone who is going to help you see the bigger picture and Your going to find comfort and strenght with your reader. Someone who is worth your money, your time and your trust will never have you leaving a reading feeling angry, bitter, sad or afraid.

I am someone who is going to ALWAYS tell you the truth even when you do not want to hear it. I am going to tell you how to fix the situation, how to make things better, brighten your path... I am going to give you ways and guidance in fixing your path to be able to live your life as happy and fulfilled as can be.  Your going to need to be patient... nothing happens over night and no one who can truly help you can tell you that they can lite a candle or kiss the moon through astral travel and all your problems are going to be solved. those are false promises.

Every good reader WILL TELL YOU that in order to see change you must put in some work yourself.. emotionally, physically and spiritually.  I am always going to be honest and provide you with accurate readings, results.  I am known for giving accurate timeframes.

People who DONT want the help

I have encountered all kinds of people from different ethnic backgrounds, ages, sexual orientations in this line of work. But it's in my own personal life that i became baffled a short time ago. When  I encounter a client, we discuss the situation. We discuss the options. We find a solution and we begin working on a better tomorrow. Not this time. This is a (friend of mine and i use the term losely) I've known this person for quite some time. This person has had a very rough life.  Family abandonments. Drugs. You name it this person has been through it.  This person has a good heart, COULD be intelligent but chooses to be reduced to ignorance.  Does not want to learn about NOTHING. If a show on television is turned on where you can learn something, she will change the channel She says "this is why i didnt like school i don't like to learn, i can't stand that  crap" Person is always talking about she's judged and no one likes her nor trusts her.

I gave this girl a chance, I took her into my life. Helped her get on her feet. cleaned her up, off the drugs quite a bit.  Then we started talking about things that happened and why she has been so angry at the world lashing out and just saying things to hurt people around her. She said.  I need help, I know i need psychological help. FINE! So, I bring it up.. I said "If you really want the psychological help, I'll arrange for you to be able to see a Psychologist. I will even pay for it, if you need me too"  She takes a long pause.... She looks up, at me and she says.....

"I know I need the help, but I don't fucking want it... fuck it.. fuck it... fuck it...."

You can Imagine the look on my face? I was feeling a lot of emotions but confusion was the one taking over, I asked her.  Why wouldn't you want the help, when you know You need it? She tells me, she does not mind the pity that she gets and that she's born to be a fuck up, so the hell with it?
I closed the chapter right there, some people might be like omg! you really should have kept helping this person. she just really needs help, shes afraid, she's this and she's that. NO.

What this person is, is SELFISH.   We all know some people like that.  They will take, abuse and use you as much as they can with the show of "im changing and i want help" but as soon as help is on the way they turn things around and just love being miserable and using their past as a crutch. Nothing will ever change. 
Sometimes, no matter how much we love the person (family member, lover, friend) We have to cut them out of our lives before they bring us, down with them

It's like Cats & Dogs

 You ever have a Friendship or Relationship in which you argue and disagree even fight with the other person like cats and dogs do, then simply return to the normal routine shortly, after ( I am not speaking of physical violence here) I mean arguments, fussing, fighting, yelling, disagreeing, bickering. Whether its a friendship or a Relationship these are the most amazing relationships, because they are often there to present us with what has to be changed in our own personal lives. We often fight too much with these people, because they mirror parts of ourselves that we cannot stand, cannot agree with or simply, cannot work on at the present time.

Often we are arguing with a part of ourselves. Because when things calm down again you can catch yourself saying something like, we're two peas in a pot, or were soul sisters or soul mates. Either way, We are always bickering at each other and these little arguments often come quickly, like a fire who has been thrown gasoline on. a quick BURST of HEAT and INTENSE reaction. Then quickly, goes out as if it was never there to begin with. The problem with this is that is causes a stress on your body emotionally drains you over and over again. Without you noticing it. So sometimes after so many arguments with someone so close to you who you cannot seem to let go of, separate from.

It's a good Idea to evaluate yourself, See what about this person is bothering you, find out if there's something about the Issue that brews something inside you, It can sometimes be from a past life. We all need to investigate ourselves more. Because it's always easy to point the finger at the other person and deliver blame in any direction than our own. Very often however we are our own ennemie time and time again

Loving someone who hates themselves.....

We always talk about " You cannot love someone until you LOVE YOURSELF" What happens, when your on the receiving end of this situation? It's not an easy situation to love someone so much that you would do anything for them. Love them, support them, be there for them. Even when THEY do not believe in themselves. Your their wings when they cannot fly, Your their voice of reason when they give up on themselves. But, How long can you DO THIS before you start to feel like your doing EVERYTHING in the relationship? How long before you begin feeling like your putting everything in, while the other person is taking everything and not giving nothing back. Love/Relationships should come with a balance of energy exchange if your giving everything without receiving your going to go dry emotionally, feeling like you ran a marathon without a drink of water nor sneakers. If you always get and never give. Your going to end up, seeing your partner sad and dissatisfied.


It's becoming a problem with women these days, they are so eager to please their man. They will stop at nothing to make him happy, while he's taking it all in, at the end of the day does this really help him? Does it only create a bigger space for him to turn into his own self hating mode? I mean this is not only women who do this for men, some men do for their women also with extreme but for the most part it's woman who do for men, By nature we are caretakers, we want to save and heal the world.

There are some people in relationships that just want someone for the pity. If you leave me, I'll kill myself. If you leave me, I don't know what i'll do. If IF IF and it scares the other person into staying. I've realized if someone needs you THAT MUCH to survive they are not living to begin with and they need some serious guidance and help. Do not DO NOT send yourself into EMOTIONAL PRISON for someone who is living a life trapped in unhappiness and sorrow. You can only, help them so much

Its sad but at the end of the day we all have to let go of something, to follow our true calling <3

I'll change... This time I'll change ???

 Alright.... So we've all had someone in our own life ( relationship) or had a friend who dealt with this in a relationship. They are in a repetitive  abusive relationship. (Emotional abuse, Verbal abuse, Mental Abuse) all these are as bad as Physical Abuse. These are all situations in which the person who is dominant in the relationship, Always uses their power over the person who NEEDS. When you believe you NEED someone, You want them so much that you believe ANYTHING they are telling you. It's always the same words. " I'll change, I'm sorry I really mean it..... I'll change" Then we fall and bend the rules, AGAIN. We drop our anger and we drop our decisions of walking away. We then are allowing the abuse to continue.  These abusers don't care about changing, they will not change unless we remove ourselves from the situation and allow them to see what they are doing.

Giving them the chance, to keep abusing is NOT LOVING THEM. It's only allowing them to keep hurting you, themselves and their life. If you are a Victim of Abuse. You HAVE TO WALK AWAY. Allow the person you LOVE to get the help that they deserve. If this is really love, If this man/woman really loves you, loves the relationship, loves their family. They are going to want the help, seek the help, get the help and walk a path of righteousness. They will find a way to make themselves better.

I know, a lot of people say that " once an abuser, always an abuser" that is NOT true. Alot of people who abuse their loved ones. have MANY emotional ISSUES that they have to deal with and have repressed angers. With therapy and counseling often this helps ... THEY CANNOT CHANGE without the help.

If you really love the person in your life who is abusing you, If your friend really loves their abusive partners. Tell them to walk away, walk out and allow them to get the help they seek.... If it's really ment to be it will happen all over again, once they are emotionally, mentally and psychologically healed

Do not hang around in the Abusive relationship waiting of the change to happen because it won't as long as u fall for the " I'll change speech" You are giving them another ticket to hurt, abuse you and hurt themselves more and more over and over again...............

If you are being physically abused........ call 911 and do not hesitate to walk away.............

*Love DOES NOT HURT*
 This is a song about Spousal Abuse *Love is Blind*
 

addicted to self induced pain?

Yesss! I'm coming back with a BANG. okay not a bang *L* but at least a hollerrrr..  I have experienced a few things these last few weeks. I have been dealing with certain people who i have really tried hard to help. Actually, lost money helping, lost time helping, lost alot of energy and at the end of these three weeks I'm looking around and I cannot see anything productive that has come out of it. It's almost like i spent my whole time speaking to myself.  I have been made fun of and called "Intelligent" with a smurk face more than once. Telling me, "Oh so your so intelligent.... why do you even care"  but... It's trying to get someone to understand that LIFE IS NOT ALWAYS FAIR but ITS ALWAYS going to have a PURPOSE regardless.

There's a time when you just have to let go trying to help someone who does not want to help themselves you cannot send yourself in a hole, even into depression for making someone else's life better. There is always going to be that someone who says "I'm never drinking again, because they feel sick then soon as they are better they got the bottle in their hand" There's always going to be the person who runs back into the abuser's arms after the fight is over. There will always be the people who are attracted to sadness, hardship. Now, from what i am feeing here always is that there are victims then there are those who LOVE TO BE playing the victim role., They can be the center of attention. get all the attention and then they go right back to the situation and all over again.

There is no way that we can help these people UNTIL they are completely, aware that they are addicted to self inflicted pain. Once they begin to understand what is really going on, they can begin accepting the help that you have to offer. until then it's going to be a battle with someone who does not listen

The victim, Seriously. All the time?

It can happen, once or twice heck maybe three times.. BUT

There are situations in this life that we all fall into, We sometimes bump into a road we didn't want it, suffer at the hands and expense of someone else. We are sometimes, abused, neglected and we will sometimes feel alone and lonely.  But is it possible that we "also sometimes" create this for ourselves?
There are patterns with certain people, where they are always the victim. They start a rumor, at the end of the week they end up, caught and hurt (it's someone elses fault) 

They cheat on a test and end up, flunking in a class (it's someone elses fault)
They lie and cheat on their partner's get dumped. are left lonely and alone (oh it HAS TO BE something the other person did)

They are miserable and it's always because of him and her and them and anyone but themselves.

Only, once we accept that we are completely responsible for our actions and things that happen in our lives will we be able to be completely happy. It's start to stop complaining about what we don't want and act towards attracting what we do want.

no one wants a cry baby around. If your over the age of 25 and your still running to family and friends to get you through EVERYTHING because its EVERYONE's FAULT but your OWN you need a reality check. life is NOT easy. not for YOU not for ME but we have to work hard to get the happiness that we want.
accept responsibility, admit to not being perfect and watch how your life begins to change :)

Goodness.. can you be quiet?

Ever have someone in your life who you tried to help as much as possible. Whether it be a friend, lover or family member. You did everything in your power to help them get their life on track, get their heart and head on straight and then you finally realize all that hardwork and patience was a big whole waste of energy on your part because 90% of the things they told you they didn't do or did was just a bunch of made up, lies and some kind of fantasy in their own head and life? There comes a time when people like that have to be completely, cut out of your life. Why? Because as long as you keep people like this in your life, you will never progress because you are going to be drained.

Emotionally, and psychologically drained. We sometimes call these people Emotional Vampires because they suck the life, energy and happiness out of you so quickly, it's almost like spraying on cement on your body. There's so many people who don't realize that they are this way. I always call them the Lying/truths. They believe everything they tell, even if it's a lie. I mean if they tell you that they are Jesus! they are Jesus! Don't tell them no different. You ask them for the truth and honesty and they feed you "their truth" which equals a bold lie. That is not people you want to keep in your life. Clear these people out of your lives. It's not like it's a hard task to do, because you will be able to tell who these people are just from being around them you feel heavy, agitated and just confused at times. Because you cannot understand WHAT or WHY things are coming out of their mouths the way they are.

Sometimes you just gotta tell people to Just ~be QUIET~  

Love YOUR LFIE..... CLEAN UP the PEOPLE WHO SURROUND YOU :)

Stop waiting for someone to MAKE YOU LOVE YOU.

It really breaks my heart when certain people come my way and i hear them tell me that because they got left they are not worthy of a good man/woman. not worthy of happiness because something had to be wrong with them if their partner walked out on them. Perhaps the relationship, was just not ment to be. Perhaps that person was just not good enough for YOU. Perhaps there was more con's than pros in your relationship. Why is it that as soon as something goes wrong you want to turn things into being your fault.


Just because someone walks out of your life, Relationship, family, friends it does not mean that you automaticly become less of a loving person. You are suppose to love yourself no matter what. When you realize that no one can bring you down BUT YOURSELF. You will notice that you attract people that want to love you, cherish you and respect you. When you believe in giving everyone the ability to give you your worth your going to be sold short. someone is going to take advantage of you. You really need to not let people get the best of you.


When you say I AM WORTHY OF RESPECT and LOVE you will get nothing less because you won't tolerate it

Loving yourself is letting go pt1

Loving yourself begins from a deep analysis of WHY and WHAT you don't like about yourself? If you think your fat, is it because someone always told you that you were fat? If you believe your stupid, did someone always call you dumb growing up? Do you feel your not worthy of real love? did someone abandon you while you were growing up, made you feel less than others, sisters, brothers, family?  You have to really sitt there and really think about it...

Once you have done that you have to realize that NO ONE can make you feel anything that you do not let them feel. You have to find it within yourself to compliment yourself every day about at least two things. Find something your good at, cooking? dressing up? being a mother? sing? draw? do you make people laugh? do you dance well? anything. find something you are good, at. give yourself credit

Don't wait for someone to compliment you because chances are you can wait forever, people these days are cruel and rather critic than compliment. you have to find the beauty within yourself, love yourself and always be dependent on no one but yourself.  You cannot allow your past to ruin your future....

We have to accept that we have been treated bad, neglected and made to feel less than human at one point in time in our lives but are we going to let that ruin our lives forever? that is allowing those people to win over you. You need to really sit there and focus on what you want in life and not allow no one to take that away from you. no one can take your happiness away but yourself

YOU make me PULL MY HAIR.. ARRGGH

Royalty? When? We all have a specific person, a friend a lover or a family member who swears they are royalty. Like everything you do for them is never good enough, if you do something it has to be right on time, not one minute late. Everything has to be perfect for them. You have to show them the most respect and speak to them in a specific tone cause if you don't they might just think your being "smart" Now, When it comes to these people, doing something for you or anyone else for that matter.....

They are always late, You have to repeat yourself more than three times. They get an attitude when you do, like rushing them is no fun, yet they rush you like your on the clock. They always find a way to critize what you do, or don't do. They will find a flaw in the best of your efforts. These people are very annoying to be around, Yet we LOVE THEM, why?

Because these people, deep down are the most loving and caring people in the world, being a grandmother, a lover or a friend.. These people have really NO IDEA that they are being this way, You can even tell them, Your being a real idiot right now and they look right at you like HUH?!?!

It takes, time and patience ESPECIALLY if this is someone you are in a Relationship, with. You have to really, let it be known often that they are being this way if you keep it in, bottled in its not going to help you any more than if you just argued with them all the time. The best approche? cool,calm and collective. Decent, grown conversation. Without yelling, pointing fingers and major accusations

The royalty with them is often something they have no idea about so sometimes we have to let them know. YOUR NOT always RIGHT and it's OKAY for OTHER PEOPLE to have OPINIONS also.    It's a rough ride but often worth it because these people are very loyal to their friends and loved ones.

Music Lifts your Spirits

Have you ever just felt like crap in the morning, gotten in your car turned the radio on or a cd and then all of a sudden your worries were lifted from you and you felt brand new? Have you ever heard a song that you usually would not listen too ie: a different genre. Then all of a sudden you feel like you could move mountains? This is because music is letters and sounds put together in every letter there is a sound that resonates through our souls. With every melodie there is also a sound that is also linked to our soul and that put together into a song, which carry emotions are cleansing and healing to the soul.

There are times if you listen to a bit more more of the same song or a little less of one. You would feel extremely better. Music is much more than what we perceive it to be as listeners only someone who composes the melodie/sounds, lyrics and other could possibly understand exactly what it means. I suggest that you start playing with music in order to figure it out for yourself, what works for you. what makes you want to grab a hold of your life, change it and make the most of your life. Try It. You won't be disappointed

There are a few songs based on melodies and letters alone mixed with the beats that are for uplifting I am going to suggest them in here and go ahead, try and see what happens :)


Beautiful you are (women especially)
fireflies (listen to this with your eyes closed)
Only Time
Feed The hungry

These are just a few... There's also vibrations to EVERY name on the planet. Yes! The way you spell your name can signify your luck in love, life, careers and even financially.

The Media is full of crap

There is so much hate in the world, these days. Everytime you turn on the tv someone has shot someone, someone got stabbed, someone was murdered, abducted, raped, abused, neglected.

Why can we never turn on the tv and see someone who has given a dollar to someone in need? Someone who helped someone do the dishes (as simple as it seems) someone who helped a man or woman who was stranded.  Of course not because media feeds off the negative and the bad things that happen in the world only makes me believe it attracts more and more.
People want to be famous or celebrities these days? kill someone or get pregnant at 15 your gonna be on the news hell you might even get your own show. It makes no sense whatsoever. I really want people to try everyday  to do something kind for someone else. You never know how much you can change someone's life with a simple act of kindness.

When you do something for someone do it from the heart, not with intentions of getting something back or getting recognition for it because then you might be let down do it because you want TO DO IT. If you take care of other people, the Universe will take care of you and BLESS YOU
It's YOUR life, LOVE it but allow someone else to LOVE theirs Also.

Some ME time PLEASE

There is only a certain amount of  Readings and Helping people someone like me can do A DAY. I LOVE MY CLIENTS. I LOVE OFFERING THEM GUIDANCE. But sometimes people have to understand that I NEED REST too. Without rest how can I be full of energy to help you and other people who need help? I do work around the clock, if someone needs me, I WILL wake up. But that does not mean that I DONT go to sleep. sometimes I do SLEEP and when I DO. I LOVE IT *L* SO please try to understand that I am only human.

I think that is the biggest misconception of Clairvoyant and Psychics is that because we do and know what we know that we can somehow function on other realms than regular people. no. We eat and Sleep and drink water like the rest of society. So next time someone is not online when you need them please, understand and don't send hate mail and aggressive letters because it won't help your case. I am not saying this is something that has happened to me, but it has happened to other people i know that clients expect them to be there twenty four seven  seven days a week. That's not possible.

Now Speaking of me, time. YOU all need me time.. So every day EVERYONE should take 1 hour for themselves. no MATTER how BUSY you are. You need some time to relax and take care of you. LIVE YOUR LIFE and LOVE YOUR LIFE

Loving YOURSELF

There are so many reasons to love yourself. The main one is that when you love yourself and respect yourself you don't have to worry about someone taking advantage of you,  because you will not stand for it nor tolerate it. I am serious, so many women tell me oh I love myself, I'm the shit.. uhhh? So why are you staying with a man who is abusing you? cheating on you? lying to you? They answer the same.. "Because I love him or Because I won't find no one else" Is that SELF LOVE? I seriously, doubt that very much.

Priorities need to get in order. If you LOVE yourself you don't allow someone to treat you wrong because you love them. Then there are those people who say they love themselves as they are, yet they say they want to lose weight but won't even TRY to do something for themselves, If you KNOW you want to lose weight, why buy that extra bag of chips or that extra burger? If you know your going to feel bad, sad and sick? People these days think, aaaah i love myself the way that i am, big or not well it's not really about THAT. If you REALLY loved yourself you would want to keep your body healthy from the inside out. Who cares if they make a dress that you can fit, does it mean that your heart and organs are healthy on the inside??? NO! So get yourself together and REALLY LOVE YOURSELF.  MOVE.MOVE. and eat healthy.. DO HAPPY. HEALTHY THINGS for yourself. LOOK IN THE MIRROR and SMILE then tell yourself your going to WALK. JOG. Do 1 sit up. DO SOMETHING for YOURSELF.

I myself, have been over-weight and I thought I loved myself, until i realized i was disrespecting my own BODY by not being good to it.. loading it up, with unhealthy things. I want to LIVE LONGER  you NEED to do the SAME

Love YOURSELF :)

Love does still exist

 There's so many ways to look at love, So many people over the years have used the words " I Love You" only to make them wrong. While lying and hurting people, using the only words we had to really show and let someone know we loved them truly. There is still real love out there. Loving someone where you listen to a song and it brings a moment in your heart that awakens and it brings butterflies in your stomach. There is still that love that when you see your partner of "X" number of years you still feel nervous, you still blush, you still look your best and get pretty/handsome for him/her. There is still the love where you put someone's needs before your own. wanting them to be happy, because just knowing that they are happy, makes you happy inside.

That's love that's not selfish. there are so many people these days that put restrictions on love and bad things on love. Oh IF he loved you he would do this and do that, if she loved you she would do this and that... WHO are YOU to say what is right and what is wrong? Just because someone does not agree with the way you are loving or being loved, does not make it wrong. Don't ever allow someone to tell you that your way of loving or being loved is not the "right way" now unless of course there is abuse involved because love is not abuse. not emotionally, spiritually, physically nor sexually no one suffers in love.

But I want people to know that real love does still exist sometimes it's not easy because when your in a relationship where real love is living. Things happen to test us. We bump into roads that have turns and bumps and dead ends, where we have to turn around and do it all over again with the same person just to let each-other know things are going to be alright. Whenever and Wherever there's real love. There's no need to fear because at the end of the day you can get through anything together.

Everyone argues, Everyone has disagreements. It's not because of an argument that you can let someone tell you that things are not real ... keep that in your head and in your heart..

It's your life... LOVE IT & LIVE IT

When you leave a psychic session

You often come for a reading, because you are feeling confused, sad, upset and your not sure exactly what is going on and you really need some insight and Guidance into your life. You often turn to Clairvoyants/Psychics and Healers Because we have most of the answers that you are searching for. When you leave a reading with us, You are suppose to feel happier, uplifted and have a sense of belonging in the world again. You are suppose to be feeling refreshed and almost like a car who just got a full tank of fuel.

Ready to face the world, without fears and doubts. So many people leave a psychic reading with more questions than answers. That's when you really got to question your reader. Are you only getting semi-answers in order to bring you back in? Are you getting answers that you can truly work with on your path? Is your reader doing all that's possible to make sure you are at peace and feeling easy by the time the reading is over? There's so much that falls into getting a reading and it's all about your happiness and calmness from within.

If you leave your reading and your feeling anxious and unhappy, unsure and uncertain about things. Chances are that reader may not be for you and you need to find someone else to work with. Someone who will put your need first of course with truth. Telling you the truth but working with you in finding happiness. I really believe a good reader is someone who can and will be there for you in a time of need.

Love YOUR LIFE and choose a READER that is GREAT TO YOU :)

Focusing on the bad ruins it all

There are so many times where i catch myself speaking to people and at the end of my conversation with them. I'm just exhausted I feel like the world just landed on my shoulders. No matter how much you try to make a light joke, no matter how much you try to show them a bit of positive they are stuck on the negative. That really drags someone down. I wrote on my status today that if people stopped being so serious and took things light heartedly a bit more life would be so much better. The world would be a better place.

Look at children as prime examples. They don't know the worries of the world. They don't know what being bitter, angry, sour and just plain ignorant is. So they don't show any long-term emotion other than happiness. Sure they get mad and cry and scream when they want something (but that's them learning) after two minutes of that they are back to laughing and playing.  How many times can we say that something makes us angry, sad or just turns our world upside down and ten minutes later we are perfectly fine? not often. Most of us dwell on those things for whole days if not weeks.

If you learn to let things go, sure reflect on them, get mad, cry, scream and then get over it. You will see that your whole day does not have to be affected. Your whole life does not have to be shattered by something that happened that was out of your control to begin with. so many of us are spending too many hours in a day complaining, bitching and whining about things that we cannot change. So let's try to slow that down and eventually stop that. If you cannot control it, leave it alone. If it's out of your power don't try to over power it. You will only end up miserable with messed up days.

Enjoying your life, begins with you and how you handle things thrown your way.

Love Life

Progress, Does it mean leaving others behind?

There are times when it really feels like the world as given up, on you. Things are all falling apart, nothing seems to be working. People don't listen, everyone is judging you and misjudging you. It feels like your completely alone and like someone is holding you a prisoner in your own heart, life and soul. These are times where you have to look at yourself, from within. Did you do something to limit your own path? Are you keeping yourself in a situation that's not good for you? Are you trying to help someone who does not want to help themselves in life?  Waiting on your partner to progress while he's just sitting around not wanting to progress mentally and spiritually?

These are things that can have you feeling heavy and just stuck. A feeling of unknown and aggravation. It doesn't have to stay that way. You have the ability to move forward from any situation. Does that mean that you have to let go of your partner? of your friends? No it doesn't It means that you continue moving forward on your path, Doing what feels good to you. They will realize it's the right way to go, and follow (catch up) or they won't but that will be their decision. YOU will be fine... The only way for YOU to be fine is progress. 

It happens, so more often in Friendships than relationships because for the most part relationships are based on equal thought and emotions. (not often but we touch on that on another time) But Friendships are what causes confusion a lot of times.  Your friends with someone and it's the same routine, drinking, partying, going out, getting so drunk you can't remember things, doing too much of nothing and not enough of something. so all of a sudden your like okay. This is NOT productive. I need to change my life style.  What is going to happen is.

Your going to find a path of progression doing better for yourself, achieving things. Your friend is either going to say. wow. I can have all that too if i stop the lack of responsibility in your life and move forward or your friend is going to call you a trader and keep going with the drinking only to realize few years down the road that they missed out on a whole lot

At the end of the day you have to do what feels RIGHT to YOU. LIVE and LOVE YOURS LIFE.
You cannot make someone learn responsibility before their time. Some people will go through a whole lifetime of wasting years and end up 60 unhappy and nothing to fall back on. That is NOT your responsibility

If they follow, they follow. If they don't.... Do not stop yourself :)

Abusers and Abused.. men or women its NONO

How many times have we heard a friend, sister, brother...etc. Telling us that they got into an argument with their significant other and things got rough, either he slapped the crap out of her or she swung at him with a lamp. Do you really feel this is right? NO! Its completely wrong. NO one should ever raise their hands on someone they love. Dating abuse. Relationship Abuse. Marital Abuse all these things need to be stopped. It's not okay to remain in an abuse relationship. Now there's all kinds of Abuses but TODAY I am touching on the Physical aspect of things.

There is something in common that all abusers have, whether they are men or women. After the fact they are always sorry, they will never do it again. They are not sure what got into them. If someone is REALLY sorry, after the first time it happens, they will be signing up for counseling, therapy and anger management classes. If someone is NOT really sorry, They will just be OKAY until the next time they flip out and you get an ass-whipping again.

I want YOU (abused) To read this clearly. YOU are NOT to REMAIN a victim in a situation like this You are TO LEAVE. Go to a shelter for women (and there are some for men also) Call 911 do WHAT you have to do but leave that house before you end up, DEAD. It begins with slow fits of rage but escalates very quickly. It's NOT your fault. (unless you hit first then you are the ABUSER) but if you are not hitting and you get hit you are a VICTIM and you need to get help

I want YOU (The Abuser) To read this clearly. YOU are NOT to lay hands on a woman nor a man. You are going through repressed anger from the past. Perhaps even a past life. many factors key in here. It does not make you a bad person, but you really need some help. Call a psychologist, psychiatrist, doctor. Someoen who can help you understand your feelings and emotions and learn to control them. If you want to CHANGE there is a way....

The most important thing here. If you have CHILDREN PLEASE PLEASE leave right away, bring the kids. We do not need a world of children who have grown up to watch abusive behavior to keep the cycle going. Let's work today for a better more peaceful tomorrow.