If you settle for 2nd.... You deserve second.....?

Before I begin this Post, I want EVERYONE to understand. I am NOT here to judge what YOU do Personally. But my post comes from MULTIPLE experience with FRIENDS. FAMILY and CLIENTS. It is not AIMED at anyone in particular but IT is The TRUTH.

Every day I have a session or a conversation with someone who is in love with someone who is married. Now, It's very possible that the married man/woman has feelings for you in return. It's very possible that there's a connection there that cannot be explained, that when you are together or around each other that the sparks are flying so high you feel like your surrounded by 1million light-bugs. I feel strongly that that is OKAY (it's not right, but it's okay) Because we are all human. The problem here is that the person who is married has a commitment to their partner and if they fail to WALK away from the marriage. Terminate things on the other end in order to move forward with you.


If this person is leading you on always telling you. OH we're going to end things. I am confused. I don't know how to do it. I want a bit more time.   STOP. THINK. REALLY THINK. Are you willing to be second ALL YOUR LIFE? Are you not worth more than this? a person who cheats once is NOT ALWAYS A CHEATER contrary to popular belief BUT. a dishonest person will always be a dishonest person.
What I mean by this is, you don't lead someone on, nor lie to the other person for a year because it JUST HAPPENED.


It's time to realize your OWN WORTH and move forward where you can BE NUMBER ONE in YOUR OWN LIFE. Then NUMBER ONE in someone's else's life, next to God and children in involved. STOP settling for second place next to another lover because your afraid of being alone.... Alone is NOT that bad.

Useless argument or Lesson in the making?

There's times in life where things happen that are completely out of our control. It's easy when we have a falling out with our best-friend or our significant other, parents. To blame them right off the bat. It's THEIR fault. I didn't do anything. okay, that's when you take a deep breath and you say. okay, I didn't do anything TODAY. Maybe the argument stems from something that has been done by you in the past. As friends and Lovers we often let things slide, but after enough is enough we tend to want to just OKAY. Your going to have to learn this the hard way and give someone a taste of their behavior.
It happens to the best of us, We always find it so much easier to blame someone else, than to actually consider that we're part of the problem, not the solution. What we have to learn is to become part of the solution. Work towards not pointing the finger so fast. Besides, we all learn from every situation in our lives. These are lessons to help us progress on our paths. If we don't learn, we don't progress.  Which means more than likely we're going to go through the same thing. over and over again until we learn the lesson which we are suppose to. So next time someone is angry with you, not speaking to you or just has words for you. Try not blaming them right away, try seeing what really happened to lead to this point.

I am not saying to be the subject of abuse because it's something you must of did. I'm talking about random little fights. not physical or psychologically abusive arguments/fights. I'm talking about those arguments you keep having over and over with the people in your life



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The Rain & The emotional Benefits

When we wake up, to seeing rain, We have a tendency to say awwww shyt, another boring rainy day. The rain is the earth cleansing itself, giving humidity to the ground in order to bring life to earth. What we need to do on rainy days is take some time to reflect on things. Cry, Write down your sorrows and problems. Then let the rain wash it away. When the sun shines again, forget about the negativity and the the attraction for the sun in your own life.

Forget about your can'ts and won'ts and focus on the I CAN and I WILL. The sun shinning again after a rainy day gives people energy an drive to go outside and do things again. So after you've flushed your heartaches with the rainy day. Your soul is ready for some positive.
So Let go of the rain and let the sunshine within you. so next time you wake up to a rainy day, don't curse. dont be dissapointed. Instead use this as your Emotional cleaning day......When the sun shines again everything will be fresh and right.......

You dont have to believe me, though...................... Try it

Love YOU be easy on YOURSELF

Let's be honest, no matter how beautiful you are. No matter how wonderful your life is. Your job is. Your kid(s) is/are. You will have one of those days where you wake up, feel like the world is sitting on you. That's one of those days that you are being tested. Stumble towards the sink, grab yourself a big tall glass of cold fresh water. Walk yourself into the bathroom or where your nearest mirror is. Smile. Smile at yourself, because you are BEAUTIFULL. No one, Nothing. Not words. No someone else's actions towards you. Should make you feel any less of a person.

You can sit there and ask yourself, all day "WHY ME?" But at the end of the day feeling sorry for yourself, has not be productive you haven't done anything to make your life better. To even get you out of the situation that your why-me'ing about. You haven't been progressive at all.  Instead ask yourself, WHY NOT ME, when looking at horrific moments in the world. You will soon realize that you are Blessed, more than you know.

It's easy to lose faith and confidence in yourself when it seems like the more you do, the harder you try. The more changes you make NO ONE NOTICES. YET if you forget one little thing everyone wants to point it out.

I've had clients tell me, no matter what i do, it goes unnoticed but if i mess up, a little bit. everyone notices. You know what? That's okay.... There''s nothing in life that will get you moving like a pack of hating critics.
To be honest at the end of the day, it does not matter WHO thinks WHAT of you. as long as you are respectful and loving to yourself and your children. The world will keep going if you don't do the dishes for once. If you take a nap, if you go get your hair done instead of cooking supper for someone. Eat out. Breathe easy. Do something FOR YOU. You will notice that the world will feel less heavy...
but don't believe me................ TRY IT

A new begining for us

So now that i've spent some time discussing what i WILL not deal with. I can now begin on the positive things. I can focus on those who want to be helped. focus on bringing the positive and the love back into yourself. I know it was a negative blog to begin with. (It was brought to my attention) BUT. I  had to set things straight before.

To save me some time, but most of all to save you some time. if you wanted to hear lovely fairtytales. You were wasting your time with me. :) I am going to try to post more often in order to touch on more subjects.  I hope everyone is having a wonderful day and i hope everyone is looking forward to some positive things coming from me. :)  It's going to be still real and to the point. I just won't be focusing on the clients who DONT want to help themselves. I will be writing for those of you who can use the help and the energy coming from me... I look forward to hearing from you :)

*Love Life*

WHO & WHEN

The one thing that confuses me about some clients, is when they come to me and say " I don't have a specific partner BUT.. When will i get married and with WHO" Now.. When Will you get married, I can answer because I can see this. now with WHO? You really going to sit there and ask me to describe and give you a name of the person your going to marry in 10 years from now?....


Seriously. There's a lot of things that I can help clients with but come to me with some serious questions. Things that can make your life, better. something that can empower you and your life. don't ask me about who your going to marry, Don't ask me to name your TOWN to prove I can connect with you.
Testing a reader is not a good thing to do. It seriously, makes you look like your not serious about wanting to get real answers for real problems. by testing i don't mean making sure, the reader is accurate but that whole "What color are my boxers" question is OLD!!! Quite frankly, ethical readers won't bother reading for clients who play these games. I'm ONE OF THEM. Get real or find someone who will lie to you and play your games.

Celebrities..coming back for you? PLEASE!

I'm writing this with no intentions of being disrespectful towards clients nor friends. I'm being completely honest here. If you truly believe that your soul mate is a  famous movie actor, musician that died in the last 5years that will re-born in the next year in order to come be with you in another body you have to seriously question if you need a counselor and not a psychic. IF and its a BIG IF. That was the case. spirit is born again in the body of a child, how on earth would you even pursue that relationship without being a pedophile, seriously?? Get your headset right..... I am tired of false psychics and false readers, giving these people false hope about things are not likely to happen just to make a dollar. I mean can you imagine how many times over the years is someone going to come to you to see if MJ is going to come back to be with you... SERIOUSLY? Get a grib and focus on YOUR LIFE and YOUR BEING HAPPY without these celebrities and fantasies of celebrities. I'm not saying its NOT possible  but the reality of things is.... MOVE ON

Being an advisor online

Has brought so much happiness into my life. Sure, there are days when I want to scream. But the days that  I am happy are far more  in abundance. I have met incredible people who share my abilities and my work and understand me. Coming from different countries, different cultures. Different ages, ethnic backgrounds and cultures. I have found trues friends and found some people who i can't stand but learn something along the way.  As far as the clients go, It's so many people in this world that need help and guidance and would not be able to find answers to their questions if it wasn't for those of us who do,this work online. I really believe wholeheartedly that they are grateful at the end of the day for meeting, us as well.....

Its amazing to know that you can read for someone in Australia, Japan, Usa and still be as accurate and connected as if someone was in your living room or your kitchen. It's amazing how powerful the mind and the heart and soul are when it comes to wanting to help and guide someone in the right direction. Those of us who take pride in helping people day by day really do it because we care, regardless of what people may say

Suicidal clients

There are some clients who come to us, daily that really need a psychologist.  The moment a client tells us of suicidal thoughts. The need/want to die or harm themselves or others. We need to remove ourselves from their journey and guide them towards a psychologist, counselor or even have them call 911 and find immediate help. It's one thing to be depressed and fed up, for a day or two. It happens to all of us. But when someone is speaking about dying and just trying to end their life over something as a relationship, child, parent, school this is someone who truly needs some psychological help. sure, if we wanted too we could really help them for a day or so but as soon as those feelings re-appear then they need the whole treatment all over again. I cannot speak for every expert but i do not want someone's life in my hands. That is to much responsibility for me.

I am here to help people on their Journeys when they are ready to make positive changes in their own lives and want me as a compass. as a map. not as the driver. I'll help you fuel your car but i won't drive that motha for you....  Please,  Psychics. Clairvoyants, healers and mediums. Be careful on how you treat people who have suicidal tendencies. 


 If you or someone you know, is/having suicidal thoughts please call the number below.. if it's extreme emergency please dial 911

• Call 1-800-SUICIDE / 1-800-784-2433
• Call 1-800-273-TALK / 1-800-273-8255

Can I get a connection?

Can you be a bit more specific, please?  Let me explain something to some of you....   A connection is something that I can give you ( details on a situation, speaking of something going on in your life that i should know nothing about that you can confirm) A connection is not telling you an answer to a question that you have no idea the answer yourself. How, can I possibly provide a connection when your question is " Does Bill love me" please give me information and an answer as a connection. HMM NO!

I  am not going to be giving you free information and free readings just because you think you are smart enough to con me into giving you information. Whoever invented that "connection" scenario was a whole lot of wrong. We may be taboo a bit still in some places known as psychics but we are no fools.  I can only speak for myself here but I very rarely read for free. It may happen from time to time in order to help a friend or even to offer advice quickly to someone who is in need.

This does not mean, I'm about to give it up, for free. Lately there has been  a serious increase in people contacting me wanting information then telling me "show me connection please"  I am going to warn you in advance. You won't get a reply from me and more than likely your going to get blocked also.  You've been warned. Please dont try the game with me