The victim, Seriously. All the time?

It can happen, once or twice heck maybe three times.. BUT

There are situations in this life that we all fall into, We sometimes bump into a road we didn't want it, suffer at the hands and expense of someone else. We are sometimes, abused, neglected and we will sometimes feel alone and lonely.  But is it possible that we "also sometimes" create this for ourselves?
There are patterns with certain people, where they are always the victim. They start a rumor, at the end of the week they end up, caught and hurt (it's someone elses fault) 

They cheat on a test and end up, flunking in a class (it's someone elses fault)
They lie and cheat on their partner's get dumped. are left lonely and alone (oh it HAS TO BE something the other person did)

They are miserable and it's always because of him and her and them and anyone but themselves.

Only, once we accept that we are completely responsible for our actions and things that happen in our lives will we be able to be completely happy. It's start to stop complaining about what we don't want and act towards attracting what we do want.

no one wants a cry baby around. If your over the age of 25 and your still running to family and friends to get you through EVERYTHING because its EVERYONE's FAULT but your OWN you need a reality check. life is NOT easy. not for YOU not for ME but we have to work hard to get the happiness that we want.
accept responsibility, admit to not being perfect and watch how your life begins to change :)

Goodness.. can you be quiet?

Ever have someone in your life who you tried to help as much as possible. Whether it be a friend, lover or family member. You did everything in your power to help them get their life on track, get their heart and head on straight and then you finally realize all that hardwork and patience was a big whole waste of energy on your part because 90% of the things they told you they didn't do or did was just a bunch of made up, lies and some kind of fantasy in their own head and life? There comes a time when people like that have to be completely, cut out of your life. Why? Because as long as you keep people like this in your life, you will never progress because you are going to be drained.

Emotionally, and psychologically drained. We sometimes call these people Emotional Vampires because they suck the life, energy and happiness out of you so quickly, it's almost like spraying on cement on your body. There's so many people who don't realize that they are this way. I always call them the Lying/truths. They believe everything they tell, even if it's a lie. I mean if they tell you that they are Jesus! they are Jesus! Don't tell them no different. You ask them for the truth and honesty and they feed you "their truth" which equals a bold lie. That is not people you want to keep in your life. Clear these people out of your lives. It's not like it's a hard task to do, because you will be able to tell who these people are just from being around them you feel heavy, agitated and just confused at times. Because you cannot understand WHAT or WHY things are coming out of their mouths the way they are.

Sometimes you just gotta tell people to Just ~be QUIET~  

Love YOUR LFIE..... CLEAN UP the PEOPLE WHO SURROUND YOU :)

Stop waiting for someone to MAKE YOU LOVE YOU.

It really breaks my heart when certain people come my way and i hear them tell me that because they got left they are not worthy of a good man/woman. not worthy of happiness because something had to be wrong with them if their partner walked out on them. Perhaps the relationship, was just not ment to be. Perhaps that person was just not good enough for YOU. Perhaps there was more con's than pros in your relationship. Why is it that as soon as something goes wrong you want to turn things into being your fault.


Just because someone walks out of your life, Relationship, family, friends it does not mean that you automaticly become less of a loving person. You are suppose to love yourself no matter what. When you realize that no one can bring you down BUT YOURSELF. You will notice that you attract people that want to love you, cherish you and respect you. When you believe in giving everyone the ability to give you your worth your going to be sold short. someone is going to take advantage of you. You really need to not let people get the best of you.


When you say I AM WORTHY OF RESPECT and LOVE you will get nothing less because you won't tolerate it

His fault. Her fault. never my fault

Taking responsibilities for your own actions instead of blaming everyone around you. It's so easy to blame people. I will say that at the end of the day, you will get nowhere and learn nothing if you do not accept that sometimes you make mistakes, heck. We all make mistakes.

Yes! Even me, I am only human. It's easy ti blame the car infront of us for being late to work. Blame your ex boyfriend for being cranky and paranoid in every relationship. Blame your highschool teacher because you failed on a test. Blame your co-workers because you hate your job and you swear they are kissing the boss's butt.  It's sooo easy to focus on everything besides yourself.

Take the time to really think about things. Look at your life, what is going wrong in it? what do you want to change? Do you have the power to do something about it? Then do it, stop waiting for everything to fall on your lap. It's true that everything happens in divine timing and the path you are on has been written for you and this and that. but it does not mean you can and should go through your whole life, lazy and blaming all people surrounding you for your mistakes and the mishaps in your life.

The moment you take responsibility and work towards change in your own life. you will see things changing for the better for you. go ahead! TRY IT

The fear of change... WILL make your life hard.

There are times when we are so trapped into a downward spiral of self hate that the thought of change makes you feel sick. What if? What if not? What If?  These questions keep you back.... What if I end up alone and lonely if i leave this abusive relationship? You can answer that two ways,
What if i  leave and i'm soo happy and/or What if i stay and he/she kills me?

Don't you think that there is often a good reason to use a what if? but instead we use the what if's as negative statements and thoughts and it keeps us in the situations we are in. People are so afraid of the new, of the unknown, of change. They rather stay in their rotten livestyles, abusive relationships, drug infested life  than risk  feeling something brand new.

Self hate also comes from saying.. I hate my life. I hate that i don't have nothing. I hate that i'm broke. I hate that i'm trapped in this loveless marriage/relationship. I hate. I hate. I Hate. okay, so now that we established what you hate.  WHAT are YOU DOING to CHANGE your situation???
aaaaaaah!!!! There's the question right there... Isn't it time you start doing something to better your life, rather than complaining about what you don't  like? don't fear change.. it's for the better..

go! go! go!!   It's your life.. LIVE IT and LOVE IT

Loving yourself is letting go pt1

Loving yourself begins from a deep analysis of WHY and WHAT you don't like about yourself? If you think your fat, is it because someone always told you that you were fat? If you believe your stupid, did someone always call you dumb growing up? Do you feel your not worthy of real love? did someone abandon you while you were growing up, made you feel less than others, sisters, brothers, family?  You have to really sitt there and really think about it...

Once you have done that you have to realize that NO ONE can make you feel anything that you do not let them feel. You have to find it within yourself to compliment yourself every day about at least two things. Find something your good at, cooking? dressing up? being a mother? sing? draw? do you make people laugh? do you dance well? anything. find something you are good, at. give yourself credit

Don't wait for someone to compliment you because chances are you can wait forever, people these days are cruel and rather critic than compliment. you have to find the beauty within yourself, love yourself and always be dependent on no one but yourself.  You cannot allow your past to ruin your future....

We have to accept that we have been treated bad, neglected and made to feel less than human at one point in time in our lives but are we going to let that ruin our lives forever? that is allowing those people to win over you. You need to really sit there and focus on what you want in life and not allow no one to take that away from you. no one can take your happiness away but yourself

YOU make me PULL MY HAIR.. ARRGGH

Royalty? When? We all have a specific person, a friend a lover or a family member who swears they are royalty. Like everything you do for them is never good enough, if you do something it has to be right on time, not one minute late. Everything has to be perfect for them. You have to show them the most respect and speak to them in a specific tone cause if you don't they might just think your being "smart" Now, When it comes to these people, doing something for you or anyone else for that matter.....

They are always late, You have to repeat yourself more than three times. They get an attitude when you do, like rushing them is no fun, yet they rush you like your on the clock. They always find a way to critize what you do, or don't do. They will find a flaw in the best of your efforts. These people are very annoying to be around, Yet we LOVE THEM, why?

Because these people, deep down are the most loving and caring people in the world, being a grandmother, a lover or a friend.. These people have really NO IDEA that they are being this way, You can even tell them, Your being a real idiot right now and they look right at you like HUH?!?!

It takes, time and patience ESPECIALLY if this is someone you are in a Relationship, with. You have to really, let it be known often that they are being this way if you keep it in, bottled in its not going to help you any more than if you just argued with them all the time. The best approche? cool,calm and collective. Decent, grown conversation. Without yelling, pointing fingers and major accusations

The royalty with them is often something they have no idea about so sometimes we have to let them know. YOUR NOT always RIGHT and it's OKAY for OTHER PEOPLE to have OPINIONS also.    It's a rough ride but often worth it because these people are very loyal to their friends and loved ones.

Music Lifts your Spirits

Have you ever just felt like crap in the morning, gotten in your car turned the radio on or a cd and then all of a sudden your worries were lifted from you and you felt brand new? Have you ever heard a song that you usually would not listen too ie: a different genre. Then all of a sudden you feel like you could move mountains? This is because music is letters and sounds put together in every letter there is a sound that resonates through our souls. With every melodie there is also a sound that is also linked to our soul and that put together into a song, which carry emotions are cleansing and healing to the soul.

There are times if you listen to a bit more more of the same song or a little less of one. You would feel extremely better. Music is much more than what we perceive it to be as listeners only someone who composes the melodie/sounds, lyrics and other could possibly understand exactly what it means. I suggest that you start playing with music in order to figure it out for yourself, what works for you. what makes you want to grab a hold of your life, change it and make the most of your life. Try It. You won't be disappointed

There are a few songs based on melodies and letters alone mixed with the beats that are for uplifting I am going to suggest them in here and go ahead, try and see what happens :)


Beautiful you are (women especially)
fireflies (listen to this with your eyes closed)
Only Time
Feed The hungry

These are just a few... There's also vibrations to EVERY name on the planet. Yes! The way you spell your name can signify your luck in love, life, careers and even financially.

The Media is full of crap

There is so much hate in the world, these days. Everytime you turn on the tv someone has shot someone, someone got stabbed, someone was murdered, abducted, raped, abused, neglected.

Why can we never turn on the tv and see someone who has given a dollar to someone in need? Someone who helped someone do the dishes (as simple as it seems) someone who helped a man or woman who was stranded.  Of course not because media feeds off the negative and the bad things that happen in the world only makes me believe it attracts more and more.
People want to be famous or celebrities these days? kill someone or get pregnant at 15 your gonna be on the news hell you might even get your own show. It makes no sense whatsoever. I really want people to try everyday  to do something kind for someone else. You never know how much you can change someone's life with a simple act of kindness.

When you do something for someone do it from the heart, not with intentions of getting something back or getting recognition for it because then you might be let down do it because you want TO DO IT. If you take care of other people, the Universe will take care of you and BLESS YOU
It's YOUR life, LOVE it but allow someone else to LOVE theirs Also.

Some ME time PLEASE

There is only a certain amount of  Readings and Helping people someone like me can do A DAY. I LOVE MY CLIENTS. I LOVE OFFERING THEM GUIDANCE. But sometimes people have to understand that I NEED REST too. Without rest how can I be full of energy to help you and other people who need help? I do work around the clock, if someone needs me, I WILL wake up. But that does not mean that I DONT go to sleep. sometimes I do SLEEP and when I DO. I LOVE IT *L* SO please try to understand that I am only human.

I think that is the biggest misconception of Clairvoyant and Psychics is that because we do and know what we know that we can somehow function on other realms than regular people. no. We eat and Sleep and drink water like the rest of society. So next time someone is not online when you need them please, understand and don't send hate mail and aggressive letters because it won't help your case. I am not saying this is something that has happened to me, but it has happened to other people i know that clients expect them to be there twenty four seven  seven days a week. That's not possible.

Now Speaking of me, time. YOU all need me time.. So every day EVERYONE should take 1 hour for themselves. no MATTER how BUSY you are. You need some time to relax and take care of you. LIVE YOUR LIFE and LOVE YOUR LIFE

Loving YOURSELF

There are so many reasons to love yourself. The main one is that when you love yourself and respect yourself you don't have to worry about someone taking advantage of you,  because you will not stand for it nor tolerate it. I am serious, so many women tell me oh I love myself, I'm the shit.. uhhh? So why are you staying with a man who is abusing you? cheating on you? lying to you? They answer the same.. "Because I love him or Because I won't find no one else" Is that SELF LOVE? I seriously, doubt that very much.

Priorities need to get in order. If you LOVE yourself you don't allow someone to treat you wrong because you love them. Then there are those people who say they love themselves as they are, yet they say they want to lose weight but won't even TRY to do something for themselves, If you KNOW you want to lose weight, why buy that extra bag of chips or that extra burger? If you know your going to feel bad, sad and sick? People these days think, aaaah i love myself the way that i am, big or not well it's not really about THAT. If you REALLY loved yourself you would want to keep your body healthy from the inside out. Who cares if they make a dress that you can fit, does it mean that your heart and organs are healthy on the inside??? NO! So get yourself together and REALLY LOVE YOURSELF.  MOVE.MOVE. and eat healthy.. DO HAPPY. HEALTHY THINGS for yourself. LOOK IN THE MIRROR and SMILE then tell yourself your going to WALK. JOG. Do 1 sit up. DO SOMETHING for YOURSELF.

I myself, have been over-weight and I thought I loved myself, until i realized i was disrespecting my own BODY by not being good to it.. loading it up, with unhealthy things. I want to LIVE LONGER  you NEED to do the SAME

Love YOURSELF :)

Love does still exist

 There's so many ways to look at love, So many people over the years have used the words " I Love You" only to make them wrong. While lying and hurting people, using the only words we had to really show and let someone know we loved them truly. There is still real love out there. Loving someone where you listen to a song and it brings a moment in your heart that awakens and it brings butterflies in your stomach. There is still that love that when you see your partner of "X" number of years you still feel nervous, you still blush, you still look your best and get pretty/handsome for him/her. There is still the love where you put someone's needs before your own. wanting them to be happy, because just knowing that they are happy, makes you happy inside.

That's love that's not selfish. there are so many people these days that put restrictions on love and bad things on love. Oh IF he loved you he would do this and do that, if she loved you she would do this and that... WHO are YOU to say what is right and what is wrong? Just because someone does not agree with the way you are loving or being loved, does not make it wrong. Don't ever allow someone to tell you that your way of loving or being loved is not the "right way" now unless of course there is abuse involved because love is not abuse. not emotionally, spiritually, physically nor sexually no one suffers in love.

But I want people to know that real love does still exist sometimes it's not easy because when your in a relationship where real love is living. Things happen to test us. We bump into roads that have turns and bumps and dead ends, where we have to turn around and do it all over again with the same person just to let each-other know things are going to be alright. Whenever and Wherever there's real love. There's no need to fear because at the end of the day you can get through anything together.

Everyone argues, Everyone has disagreements. It's not because of an argument that you can let someone tell you that things are not real ... keep that in your head and in your heart..

It's your life... LOVE IT & LIVE IT

When you leave a psychic session

You often come for a reading, because you are feeling confused, sad, upset and your not sure exactly what is going on and you really need some insight and Guidance into your life. You often turn to Clairvoyants/Psychics and Healers Because we have most of the answers that you are searching for. When you leave a reading with us, You are suppose to feel happier, uplifted and have a sense of belonging in the world again. You are suppose to be feeling refreshed and almost like a car who just got a full tank of fuel.

Ready to face the world, without fears and doubts. So many people leave a psychic reading with more questions than answers. That's when you really got to question your reader. Are you only getting semi-answers in order to bring you back in? Are you getting answers that you can truly work with on your path? Is your reader doing all that's possible to make sure you are at peace and feeling easy by the time the reading is over? There's so much that falls into getting a reading and it's all about your happiness and calmness from within.

If you leave your reading and your feeling anxious and unhappy, unsure and uncertain about things. Chances are that reader may not be for you and you need to find someone else to work with. Someone who will put your need first of course with truth. Telling you the truth but working with you in finding happiness. I really believe a good reader is someone who can and will be there for you in a time of need.

Love YOUR LIFE and choose a READER that is GREAT TO YOU :)

It's the Simple things in life that bring happiness

It's the simple things in life, that bring real happiness. Diamonds, gold and material things are not going to get you very far in life, if you are not loved nor loving yourself. Those who love you because you already have all those materialistic things, won't stand by you when you would lose it all. Trust me, When it comes to love, the simple things mean and matter the most. When someone breaks up, with you. what is the first that that usually crosses your mind? I sure miss the damn toilet seat he left up, even when i complained about it. not " i miss the rings he use to buy me" That is never the first thing on someone's mind. Let's face it. We are all attracted to material things because it's installed into us from an early age. Those with money get more. If you knew how many people who are well off financially who are unhappy, in their personal life because all that money and nothing and no one worthy of sharing it with. Sometimes it's just not worth it.

Don't focus on being rich in life, focus on being happy and loved and loving. That is going to bring you more than money can ever do you for you. now, don't get me wrong. Money is great and we all love it, want it and need it. But at the end of the day. Money alone is NOT enough to keep you happy, completely happy. You have to aime higher than a nice pay check. Just try that. Focus on happy little things and you will notice that your riches improve on their own. Your money flow will increase just because you are not being greedy. Just because you settle for less but could use more. The universe will work with you. That's a Promise.

Its YOUR LIFE. Live it and LOVE IT

Focusing on the bad ruins it all

There are so many times where i catch myself speaking to people and at the end of my conversation with them. I'm just exhausted I feel like the world just landed on my shoulders. No matter how much you try to make a light joke, no matter how much you try to show them a bit of positive they are stuck on the negative. That really drags someone down. I wrote on my status today that if people stopped being so serious and took things light heartedly a bit more life would be so much better. The world would be a better place.

Look at children as prime examples. They don't know the worries of the world. They don't know what being bitter, angry, sour and just plain ignorant is. So they don't show any long-term emotion other than happiness. Sure they get mad and cry and scream when they want something (but that's them learning) after two minutes of that they are back to laughing and playing.  How many times can we say that something makes us angry, sad or just turns our world upside down and ten minutes later we are perfectly fine? not often. Most of us dwell on those things for whole days if not weeks.

If you learn to let things go, sure reflect on them, get mad, cry, scream and then get over it. You will see that your whole day does not have to be affected. Your whole life does not have to be shattered by something that happened that was out of your control to begin with. so many of us are spending too many hours in a day complaining, bitching and whining about things that we cannot change. So let's try to slow that down and eventually stop that. If you cannot control it, leave it alone. If it's out of your power don't try to over power it. You will only end up miserable with messed up days.

Enjoying your life, begins with you and how you handle things thrown your way.

Love Life

Progress, Does it mean leaving others behind?

There are times when it really feels like the world as given up, on you. Things are all falling apart, nothing seems to be working. People don't listen, everyone is judging you and misjudging you. It feels like your completely alone and like someone is holding you a prisoner in your own heart, life and soul. These are times where you have to look at yourself, from within. Did you do something to limit your own path? Are you keeping yourself in a situation that's not good for you? Are you trying to help someone who does not want to help themselves in life?  Waiting on your partner to progress while he's just sitting around not wanting to progress mentally and spiritually?

These are things that can have you feeling heavy and just stuck. A feeling of unknown and aggravation. It doesn't have to stay that way. You have the ability to move forward from any situation. Does that mean that you have to let go of your partner? of your friends? No it doesn't It means that you continue moving forward on your path, Doing what feels good to you. They will realize it's the right way to go, and follow (catch up) or they won't but that will be their decision. YOU will be fine... The only way for YOU to be fine is progress. 

It happens, so more often in Friendships than relationships because for the most part relationships are based on equal thought and emotions. (not often but we touch on that on another time) But Friendships are what causes confusion a lot of times.  Your friends with someone and it's the same routine, drinking, partying, going out, getting so drunk you can't remember things, doing too much of nothing and not enough of something. so all of a sudden your like okay. This is NOT productive. I need to change my life style.  What is going to happen is.

Your going to find a path of progression doing better for yourself, achieving things. Your friend is either going to say. wow. I can have all that too if i stop the lack of responsibility in your life and move forward or your friend is going to call you a trader and keep going with the drinking only to realize few years down the road that they missed out on a whole lot

At the end of the day you have to do what feels RIGHT to YOU. LIVE and LOVE YOURS LIFE.
You cannot make someone learn responsibility before their time. Some people will go through a whole lifetime of wasting years and end up 60 unhappy and nothing to fall back on. That is NOT your responsibility

If they follow, they follow. If they don't.... Do not stop yourself :)

Abusers and Abused.. men or women its NONO

How many times have we heard a friend, sister, brother...etc. Telling us that they got into an argument with their significant other and things got rough, either he slapped the crap out of her or she swung at him with a lamp. Do you really feel this is right? NO! Its completely wrong. NO one should ever raise their hands on someone they love. Dating abuse. Relationship Abuse. Marital Abuse all these things need to be stopped. It's not okay to remain in an abuse relationship. Now there's all kinds of Abuses but TODAY I am touching on the Physical aspect of things.

There is something in common that all abusers have, whether they are men or women. After the fact they are always sorry, they will never do it again. They are not sure what got into them. If someone is REALLY sorry, after the first time it happens, they will be signing up for counseling, therapy and anger management classes. If someone is NOT really sorry, They will just be OKAY until the next time they flip out and you get an ass-whipping again.

I want YOU (abused) To read this clearly. YOU are NOT to REMAIN a victim in a situation like this You are TO LEAVE. Go to a shelter for women (and there are some for men also) Call 911 do WHAT you have to do but leave that house before you end up, DEAD. It begins with slow fits of rage but escalates very quickly. It's NOT your fault. (unless you hit first then you are the ABUSER) but if you are not hitting and you get hit you are a VICTIM and you need to get help

I want YOU (The Abuser) To read this clearly. YOU are NOT to lay hands on a woman nor a man. You are going through repressed anger from the past. Perhaps even a past life. many factors key in here. It does not make you a bad person, but you really need some help. Call a psychologist, psychiatrist, doctor. Someoen who can help you understand your feelings and emotions and learn to control them. If you want to CHANGE there is a way....

The most important thing here. If you have CHILDREN PLEASE PLEASE leave right away, bring the kids. We do not need a world of children who have grown up to watch abusive behavior to keep the cycle going. Let's work today for a better more peaceful tomorrow.

It's all in YOUR hands

There are days when we wake up, feeling like we're the most beautiful person on the planet. Hair is just right, those jeans just fit extremely right. That shirt couldn't make you look more sexy even if you had asked for it. Your confidence shoots through the roof and you have one of them amazing days. Your out in public and your head is up, high. You smile at people who smile back at you. Your having a wonderful and Beautiful Day. Nothing can stop, you. Nothing Does.

Then the next day you wake up, Feeling like your bloated and ugly. Those jeans make you look fat and that shirt should be just a little longer to cover up, just that little bit of fat. ugh, and your hair... It's all over the place it won't stay straight the way you brushed it. You leave the house feeling on a short fuse. Your miserable inside, You walk with your head down and Your not smiling at no one. You feel less than confident and you imagine people looking at you are laughing inside and talking/thinking about you. so your sad and that turns into anger and looks of negativity. It's been one of your worst days this week.

Now after reading this, tell me. Who controls your happiness? YOURSELF. You tell yourself every morning I am BEAUTIFUL I am worth SMILING and RECEIVING smiles . I am going to be a GREAT day. I LOVE MYSELF and see how much greater your days are. When you wake up, not loving yourself and doubting yourself, The world is going to doubt you. When you love yourself. The World LOVES YOU

Is money evil? or is the need evil?

We are living in a time, Where LOVE is what we are ALL searching for but MONEY is what we really NEED. Society, Government has made money take over love. We are fighting in relationships because theres not enough money to go around. We are stressed because we are working two jobs in order to put food on the table. there's no time to sleep, Your husband or wife leaves for work when you get home for work. You no longer spending time together, as a family. Things are falling apart.

We need to realize that money is only going to be a problem, as long as we allow it to be a problem. The less we need it, the less we are looking for it the more it will come towards you. It's nothing new that we here people saying "aaah it's always the same ones that win the lottery or bingo. its the ones with the money that don't need it" That's because they do not focus on winning or getting money. they don't want it or need it.

Sure we all need money, because it does make the world go'round. But don't lose yourself voer a dollar. Don't risk your health, your relationship and your life over a dollar.  When you die, from stress you cannot take that dollar with you.

Focus on enjoying the simple things in life and You WILL be BLESSED with money.