We all know someone (co-worker,parents,friend,family member,lover) who is labeled as "two faced" in Societies views someone who is two faced is someone who speaks behind someone's back while not in their presence but when in their presence makes it seem as if they are the world to them. It's someone who goes behind their friends' back and says mean things or random things about them. Turns around and flips the story to make it seem like it was not really said, THAT WAY.
My opinion is that most people, who are two faced are lacking self esteem. They cannot share a friend. They do not want their TWO friends to have a Friendship. So if they can turn these two against eachother, they do not have to fear being left out if their friendship, kicks off. People who are labeled as two facer's are usually good people, but people who have suffered some form of emotional trauma causing them to really fear losing someone/something.
The fear of being replaced, sometimes it/can be extremely overwhelming for someone who has lost all their lives.
Then there's those who barely, have any friends at all and then they are somewhere and hear someone talking about you... in order to try to make conversation and fit in, will often say something innacurate about you. simply to be involved in the conversation and feel that he/she is part of something.
Am i making excuses for these people? NO! Because I've been victim of it many times and it's a horrible place to be. I am not making excuses but it is the truth. Not everyone does things to hurt others on purpose or make trouble for fun. Some people really have NO IDEA what they are doing, while doing it. it comes naturally because of Internal Emotional Scars.
so before you end up cutting off a friendship because of these things. Have a talk with your friend. Find out WHAT IS REALLY GOING ON. Chances are there's something deeper than you can see or imagine... not all people are out there trying to hurt you for the sake of hurting
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