PASS THIS AROUND opportunity for the youth

http://gettingintonewhome.chipin.com/opportunities-for-youth

This is a program that I am currently in the works, of bringing to light...  I need people who are devoted to allowing the youth with musical and artistic talent to succeed.....  I will offer email readings in exchange for donations.... contact me for more information and post this link around :)

Case of angry clients? *points to the door*

There are times when I can understand client's fustrations. We all have things that happen in our lives. Where we just want to throw rocks at faith.. BUT we get through it..... We learn and we focus on the positive instead of dwelling on negative thoughts and behaviors. BUT.. What about the clients that want to blame the Experts for everything? There are some clients that will go against what has been ordered, mess things up personally, then turn around and say something like "you said it would happen and it didnt" okay so explain to me this... Why did you do a) and b) when i told you clearly that if you did.. things would change, becuase nothing is written in stone?.... I have told clients at times.

You have to turn your negative energy into positive and with this, change will come. You have to look at yourself sometimes, to find out what is happening in your life and realize that you play a role in everything positive and negative. There's way to many chances and opportunities for you to succeed instead, why you take the hard, lonely and depressing road? because it's easier to give up, than to keep trying.

I will not be called names and harrassed because YOU chose to make mistakes in your life and REFUSE to change for the better..... It's your life. LOVE IT. MOLD IT. FOR THE BETTER

Unlimited package deals? It's like THIS.

I am doing this for YOU the CLIENT. I get absolutely NOTHING out of these deals because I lose out on money, time and often patience because some (again i say some) clients believe that because i offered a discount/unlimited that I should not be able to eat, shower and sleep. I do have kids and I do have a life and it's not all about helping people all day everyday. Now, I know it's called "Unlimited" but there's such thing as common sense also. I cannot be available around the clock, How much good help would I be to YOU if i did not sleep nor eat for three days and then tried to guide you in your life? awwwhhh makes sense now?  I love helping people. This is what I do because I love it, but sometimes it's hard getting emails whinning at me, because i have not be around all day "where have you been? i've been waiting on this and that and i want to know like 12 different emails from 1 person in 1 day is wayyy to much" not only, is it too much for ME. but it's definetely, too much for you. There should be no time in your life where you hang on to someone's word so much.... one or two emails a day i can understand but please. don't email me asking me if i believe you should take the train or fly??? (this is an ie) I cannot and will not do this because its very exhausting for me and it's not good for you.. you have to learn to make your own decicions at time

I need some rest. I am sorry some people, get aggrevated when i am not at the computer all the time but i cannot help that.. for a package deal of about 500$ that would have cost you over 1500 if not a deal you should be grateful and not try to burn the reader out.. it makes no sense.. where's the respect?

You have to understand....

I often get clients who ask me questions and I can clearly feel it in their hearts and souls that they are hurting very deeply. They cannot understand why a lover is not returning the love. They cannot understand why someone did not call back. They don't see why people hurt them. The truth for me is that when often I'm delivering the reading I will give the client everything that spirit gives me. If they do not rush me, because often i get the "okay okay but i don't want to know why he doesn't do it i want to know will he do it" Isn't that selfish??? Shouldn't you want to KNOW why he does or doesn't do certain things? The final result is important but you have to know why things happen.

Often the reasons why they do nor don't do certain things is more important than the actual question itself because they can help you understand your relationship or your partner better. It can help you see if it's something you can handle /deal with in the long term or something you want to deal with no longer. I often tell clients, while doing  a live session I usually need a good 10-20minutes to tell them exactly what is going on... email readings are different they are less rushed.. But live session i need at least 10-20 It takes me a while to deliver accurate information that can help you on your journey. If you want to call me to rush me and tell me "hurry up, i want to know" please call someone else. I don't give false hope, nor quick easy replies.


It's one thing to want a quick answer to something like " Am I going to get a new job? Am i going to be called for the interview? Is he/she going to be with me long-term?   but to want to know why someone has a certain behavioral pattern it's not so easy........

So please be understanding when I tell you that i cannot do it in 5mins.. this is not something that i can rush through.. It's your future after all...

Why, I'm a good Clairvoyant/Psychic for YOU

 There's always a time in our lives where we wonder What's next? Is he or She the one? Is this person or that person honest? Am I going to get that promotion? Is my finances going to get better? How about my health?  Wellll It's easy these days to log on to the internet and find a whole selection of Psychics online. The problem with this is that NOT all Psychics are LEGIT.  Not all LEGIT psychics are HONEST. 


You do not want a Reader who is going to tell you lies, Feed you what you want to hear. Your needing a reader who is going to tell you the truth. You want someone who is going to help you see the bigger picture and Your going to find comfort and strenght with your reader. Someone who is worth your money, your time and your trust will never have you leaving a reading feeling angry, bitter, sad or afraid.

I am someone who is going to ALWAYS tell you the truth even when you do not want to hear it. I am going to tell you how to fix the situation, how to make things better, brighten your path... I am going to give you ways and guidance in fixing your path to be able to live your life as happy and fulfilled as can be.  Your going to need to be patient... nothing happens over night and no one who can truly help you can tell you that they can lite a candle or kiss the moon through astral travel and all your problems are going to be solved. those are false promises.

Every good reader WILL TELL YOU that in order to see change you must put in some work yourself.. emotionally, physically and spiritually.  I am always going to be honest and provide you with accurate readings, results.  I am known for giving accurate timeframes.

Two Faced People?? WHY?

We all know someone (co-worker,parents,friend,family member,lover) who is labeled as "two faced" in Societies views someone who is two faced is someone who speaks behind someone's back while not in their presence but when in their presence makes it seem as if they are the world to them. It's someone who goes behind their friends' back and says mean things or random things about them. Turns around and flips the story to make it seem like it was not really said, THAT WAY.

My opinion is that most people, who are two faced are lacking self esteem. They cannot share a friend. They do not want their TWO friends to have a Friendship. So if they can turn these two against eachother, they do not have to fear being left out if their friendship, kicks off. People who are labeled as two facer's are usually good people, but people who have suffered some form of emotional trauma causing them to really fear losing someone/something.
The fear of being replaced, sometimes it/can be extremely overwhelming for someone who has lost all their lives.

Then there's those who barely, have any friends at all and then they are somewhere and hear someone talking about you... in order to try to make conversation and fit in, will often say something innacurate about you. simply to be involved in the conversation and feel that he/she is part of something.
Am i making excuses for these people? NO! Because I've been victim of it many times and it's a horrible place to be. I am not making excuses but it is the truth. Not everyone does things to hurt others on purpose or make trouble for fun. Some people really have NO IDEA what they are doing, while doing it. it comes naturally because of Internal Emotional Scars.

so before you end up cutting off a friendship because of these things. Have a talk with your friend. Find out WHAT IS REALLY GOING ON. Chances are there's something deeper than you can see or imagine... not all people are out there trying to hurt you for the sake of hurting

People who DONT want the help

I have encountered all kinds of people from different ethnic backgrounds, ages, sexual orientations in this line of work. But it's in my own personal life that i became baffled a short time ago. When  I encounter a client, we discuss the situation. We discuss the options. We find a solution and we begin working on a better tomorrow. Not this time. This is a (friend of mine and i use the term losely) I've known this person for quite some time. This person has had a very rough life.  Family abandonments. Drugs. You name it this person has been through it.  This person has a good heart, COULD be intelligent but chooses to be reduced to ignorance.  Does not want to learn about NOTHING. If a show on television is turned on where you can learn something, she will change the channel She says "this is why i didnt like school i don't like to learn, i can't stand that  crap" Person is always talking about she's judged and no one likes her nor trusts her.

I gave this girl a chance, I took her into my life. Helped her get on her feet. cleaned her up, off the drugs quite a bit.  Then we started talking about things that happened and why she has been so angry at the world lashing out and just saying things to hurt people around her. She said.  I need help, I know i need psychological help. FINE! So, I bring it up.. I said "If you really want the psychological help, I'll arrange for you to be able to see a Psychologist. I will even pay for it, if you need me too"  She takes a long pause.... She looks up, at me and she says.....

"I know I need the help, but I don't fucking want it... fuck it.. fuck it... fuck it...."

You can Imagine the look on my face? I was feeling a lot of emotions but confusion was the one taking over, I asked her.  Why wouldn't you want the help, when you know You need it? She tells me, she does not mind the pity that she gets and that she's born to be a fuck up, so the hell with it?
I closed the chapter right there, some people might be like omg! you really should have kept helping this person. she just really needs help, shes afraid, she's this and she's that. NO.

What this person is, is SELFISH.   We all know some people like that.  They will take, abuse and use you as much as they can with the show of "im changing and i want help" but as soon as help is on the way they turn things around and just love being miserable and using their past as a crutch. Nothing will ever change. 
Sometimes, no matter how much we love the person (family member, lover, friend) We have to cut them out of our lives before they bring us, down with them

This is NOT a RANT it's the TRUTH

This is something that has been bothering me for the longest while dealing with clients. These are not "every" client. But those who are in denial and do not want to hear the truth. They Believe they do, but they really don't. I'm the best reader. I'm Amazing, I'm so nice etc... As soon as i tell them about themselves on a level they do not want to hear it's "Your tone changed, Your maybe not accurate"  NO! Have you stopped to think that maybe the truth hurts and you are not able to handle it, so blaming me is easier than admitting to YOUR faults? I mean seriously. We all do it. I EVEN DISLIKE hearing the truth sometimes, but guess what?????
It's the first step, to getting your life on the right track....  As a reader and an honest reader I believe I have to write something on my behalf in case I come across as a "bitch" at times.

I will NOT lie to you, tell you what you want to hear or make things seem lighter than they are simply because I know this would make you happy. You are going to hear only, the truth. You will hear the good and the bad...  I could lie and tell you all that you want to know and all that would make you happy, but in the end it would only hurt more when things did not turn out as you wanted them to. It would be wrong and unethical for me to SELL YOU LIES.

So at the end of the day, if you choose to leave me bad ratings, feedback or opinions because I am not lying. it's not going to change what I have to tell you. Your never going to get a lie from me, so if you want to pay for lies. Find someone who does not care about your future. because I DO.
With that being said.. Thank you to those clients of mine who want to learn, grow and get better. even when hearing the truth burns they are grateful because they Know i am HELPING them and doing it out of love.

The truth is often something that bothers us, makes us mad, sad and very angry at times because it makes sure we confront our flaws, fears and anxieties. It triggers certain things within us, that we fear the most.... in the end it's worth it though :)

This post was written rather quickly, I have two kids running around here :) I' will write a more in dept follow up

Is the grass really greener on the other side?

The grass my friend ALWAYS looks greener on the other side. Until you end up, there. Step in some doodoo and take a look look around and there's missing patches of grass. bugs all over the place and it's never watered or watered too much....  We as humans often take what we have for granted and we believe we can get better elsewhere. That's where cheating comes from for the most part.  One of the partners is NOT satisfied and steps out because it looks soo much better over "there" Then once the situation happens they take a look back and realize their own grass wasn't that far off green as they thought. but it's too late, They already walked into trouble grounds.

It is so simple to feel and believe that other people have it better because of course no one is ever going to say my relationship is not working and things are ugly for me. they are going to paint a nice picture for the public but deep down to the core there are some serious issues within the relationship. So while your looking in, thinking wow this is an amazing person. You have no idea that once you get with that other person things are going to be all hell.

I always tell my clients, If your planning on leaving one partner for another (ie: Your in a relationship and plan on leaving it just so you can be with someone new that you already started seeing/cheating with) be cautious because in reality things may not be what it seems. You can often end up in far worst situation than you were in previously. It always looks better but it does not mean it is.



this was a rather small post but it just popped into my head... 

Bullying? Really. STOP IT!

If you are reading this please repost on facebook... or any other place that you can

I am writing this, with my whole hearted into this post because this has happened to me, I have been a Victim. I have seen people close to me be Victims and I have had clients who have been Victims. I know people who ARE victims and THIS HAS TO STOP!!!!!

There's a lot of things bullies do not understand about life and their actions. You may think that it makes you look cool or "tough" and that people are going to want to be your friend because of your behavior towards others. Being rude, slapping, pushing, calling someone names, making fun of someone's clothes, ethnic background, lunch, shoes, speech, intelligence. all of these things ARE NOT GOING TO MAKE YOU LOOK GOOD and in 10 years FROM NOW. These people will be affected STILL and YOU will not have made it any further in life than if you would have been a good person.

It's not fun to wake up, for school knowing that the minute you get on the bus or get in the school that your life because a torment. That you feel like you cannot breathe. Your heart is breaking you want to cry, your heart is racing, tears in your eyes, lump in your throats. Your nervous walking in the halls because everyone looks at you. You never know WHO will jump out and say something funny towards you and everyone will laugh at you. You are afraid of being in a class room because your afraid to be surrounded by the people who poke jokes at you.

Teachers, do not realize that a lot of kids come in the class room late because they hide in the bathroom or in the library until dinner is over and everyone is in class so they can walk freely or even go into the bathroom without being harassed. Sometimes kids go to the bathroom during class always the same kids because once kids are in the class-room they can use the bathroom without fear of being bullied. Some kids don't even eat at dinner time, because they don't want to go to the cafeteria...

It''s not every child that can afford the name brand clothing, the 300$ shoes. Those fancy little note books worth 10$ that you can buy at the dollar store. It's not everyone that can have that amazing model body in high school, it's not every girl who has a petite waist and a clear face. It's not every guy who has amazing body in high school and has all the girls chasing him. It's not every guy who's on the basket ball team. It's not every girl that's a cheerleader. But that does not make these other kids less significant. 

It's so easy to clique and laugh at other people in school. It's so easy to point, tease and laugh but for us? For those who were on the other side of the teasing, what does it really do???

I was bullied From grade 6 up, until grade 10. I changed schools twice. In one school it was so bad I did grade 9 (three times) because I couldn't concentrate and I was so afraid to go into the school it made me sick. I turned to drugs because I didn't want to go to school sober. I didn't want to feel the pain of the words and the pain of the attacks emotionally, verbally, spiritually that ripped me up, inside. I had a hard time breathing. I changed schools and was given a chance and because of this I graduated and I did something with my life. got off drugs and did something wonderful for myself. BUT NOT EVERYONE IS THIS LUCKY!!!!!

I did do better, but I do suffer from Anxiety attacks that are caused by this. I still don't always feel comfortable going out in public because of it... YEARS LATER!! some of these people that bullied me, speak to me, tell me they are sorry because they didn't know what they were doing they were just being "mean/funny" They have no idea how much it hurts every time i see their face the pain is all over me again like it just happened.  The pain that you put on these kids wont ever go away..

The pain that you make, others feel just so you can feel better about yourself. it does not go away and in the long-run karma will come after you... Keep in mind that your going to have children someday. You might have a little sister or brother and you would not want them to suffer this. You would not want them to go to bed everynight crying because they fear the next day of school..

Parents. If your kids are afraid to go to school or don't want to go to school DO NOT BELIEVE it's because they just DONT LIKE SCHOOL. 90% of the time there's a deep reason why they do not want to go to school and PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE look into it, don't let your child life be affected by these bullies.... GET IT STOPPED!!!

Bullies... This is directed at you.. most of the time bullies are people who turn into aggressors because something is wrong in their own life. at home, with their friends, within or that they are themselves being bullied and take it out on others or want to be allowed in the "bully crowed" so they bully others to get in. Please STOP and THINK.... This is NOT RIGHT... You are hurting the world..... You are hurting Souls and it's not right.. If you are a bully, want help? Talk to someone.. You can find someone to help you with this..  If your reading this and you are a bully, you can feel free to speak with me. I won't judge you but i will help you find the help that you need....

If you are being bullied, and need someone to help you, Feel free to speak to me.. I will find the help that you need...

Complaining.... It's not cute... no really

There comes a time in life where you really have to STOP COMPLAINING.  Trying to rush the hands of time is not going to do you no good. Every day wondering when your going to find mr. mrs right. Everyday complaining because your neighbor has a nicer car. Everytime you turn around calling someone down because they have something you want, is that really what you see as positive? The universe will only, return negativity back into your life, if that is all you are sending out. You cannot hate on the world and expect the world to love you in return. You've all heard the saying "Treat people the way you want to be treated" Why would you treat the world/The Universe any differently? Why would you wake up, every morning complaining about something that you do not have, Instead of being grateful for what you DO have?...

So many people in this world don't have food, water, clothes. The simple neccessities in life, Yet they are never complaining and always grateful for the little bit that they have.  I really believe wholeheartedly, that if people in the world today became a bit more aware that the negativity they spit out is what is keeping them trapped in the sadness, bitterness and anger that they are in, things would change.

Some people complain about having been single for so long. They can never find  a lover  that will remain with them, they feel like they are always being used, someone is always walking out on them... Stop. Ask yourself something "WHY, is everyone walking out" It cannot be EVERYONE who has the same problem. The only, common thing/person here is YOU.  Take a deep look at yourself and what your saying, doing and the energy you are putting out there with these people, chances are. There is something about you negative that is pushing people away.

Now, I am not saying that you are negative to the core. no one is. We all have negative traits and positive ones. The key here is like everything else. BALANCE. You cannot be over the top with negativity because it drains people, no one wants a nagger and a complainer around them all the time. It's sucks the happiness right out of people.

So next time before you complain about what you don't got, think about what you do GOT. Think about what your doing in your own life that is causing these things around you to happen and I guarantee things will change for the positive within your life.

Why isn't your life perfect?

 If I had a dollar for every time someone told me, why can't you have the perfect life, Your psychic. I'd be Rich and living on my own Island. I am telling people everyday. I am able to help and guide other people because in helping other's there's no selfishness involved. When it comes to myself sure I get those little gut feelings that we all get, That I don't think i should get on that car, or maybe I'll take the other way home tonight.. Things of that nature, but When it comes to love, and other areas of life. I cannot help myself no matter what.

I believe Spirit blinds us from our own lives because if we would be able to see these things, we would become selfish and ungrateful of our gifts. The people around us and Life itself. We would take everything for granted. I mean Look at us. Our water is free, we waste it. Our food comes easy, we waste it. When we have good people around us, we often forget to tell them how important they are to us, daily. So why wouldn't we take advantage of our gifts if we could make our lives perfect? We are humans, by nature we are selfish creatures. We want to be happy, we seek happiness without knowing what real happiness is, so I believe it would be self destruction if we were able to see in our own lives.

Also, I believe that if we were always Happy, We really wouldn't be happy..... doesn't make sense huh? Yup! I know, We recognize Loved, happiness and joy because we have experienced, heartache, sadness and sorrow. Without the painful experiences we would not be able to experience the Joys. 

It gets a bit annoying at times when trying to help someone and they say "if you were so psychic wouldn't your life be perfect" omg!!! no.  So I hope that this opens up, a few eyes to the reasons why we cannot read/see for ourselves. ( I cannot speak for every reader as i know some tarot readers pull cards for themselves) I can't and wouldn't any way.

So again. I'm only, human. I don't have no superhuman abilities to make my life perfect or win the lottery tomorrow. BUT i can HELP YOU find true love and happiness from within  while answering your life questions.

It's like Cats & Dogs

 You ever have a Friendship or Relationship in which you argue and disagree even fight with the other person like cats and dogs do, then simply return to the normal routine shortly, after ( I am not speaking of physical violence here) I mean arguments, fussing, fighting, yelling, disagreeing, bickering. Whether its a friendship or a Relationship these are the most amazing relationships, because they are often there to present us with what has to be changed in our own personal lives. We often fight too much with these people, because they mirror parts of ourselves that we cannot stand, cannot agree with or simply, cannot work on at the present time.

Often we are arguing with a part of ourselves. Because when things calm down again you can catch yourself saying something like, we're two peas in a pot, or were soul sisters or soul mates. Either way, We are always bickering at each other and these little arguments often come quickly, like a fire who has been thrown gasoline on. a quick BURST of HEAT and INTENSE reaction. Then quickly, goes out as if it was never there to begin with. The problem with this is that is causes a stress on your body emotionally drains you over and over again. Without you noticing it. So sometimes after so many arguments with someone so close to you who you cannot seem to let go of, separate from.

It's a good Idea to evaluate yourself, See what about this person is bothering you, find out if there's something about the Issue that brews something inside you, It can sometimes be from a past life. We all need to investigate ourselves more. Because it's always easy to point the finger at the other person and deliver blame in any direction than our own. Very often however we are our own ennemie time and time again

Loving someone who hates themselves.....

We always talk about " You cannot love someone until you LOVE YOURSELF" What happens, when your on the receiving end of this situation? It's not an easy situation to love someone so much that you would do anything for them. Love them, support them, be there for them. Even when THEY do not believe in themselves. Your their wings when they cannot fly, Your their voice of reason when they give up on themselves. But, How long can you DO THIS before you start to feel like your doing EVERYTHING in the relationship? How long before you begin feeling like your putting everything in, while the other person is taking everything and not giving nothing back. Love/Relationships should come with a balance of energy exchange if your giving everything without receiving your going to go dry emotionally, feeling like you ran a marathon without a drink of water nor sneakers. If you always get and never give. Your going to end up, seeing your partner sad and dissatisfied.


It's becoming a problem with women these days, they are so eager to please their man. They will stop at nothing to make him happy, while he's taking it all in, at the end of the day does this really help him? Does it only create a bigger space for him to turn into his own self hating mode? I mean this is not only women who do this for men, some men do for their women also with extreme but for the most part it's woman who do for men, By nature we are caretakers, we want to save and heal the world.

There are some people in relationships that just want someone for the pity. If you leave me, I'll kill myself. If you leave me, I don't know what i'll do. If IF IF and it scares the other person into staying. I've realized if someone needs you THAT MUCH to survive they are not living to begin with and they need some serious guidance and help. Do not DO NOT send yourself into EMOTIONAL PRISON for someone who is living a life trapped in unhappiness and sorrow. You can only, help them so much

Its sad but at the end of the day we all have to let go of something, to follow our true calling <3

I'll change... This time I'll change ???

 Alright.... So we've all had someone in our own life ( relationship) or had a friend who dealt with this in a relationship. They are in a repetitive  abusive relationship. (Emotional abuse, Verbal abuse, Mental Abuse) all these are as bad as Physical Abuse. These are all situations in which the person who is dominant in the relationship, Always uses their power over the person who NEEDS. When you believe you NEED someone, You want them so much that you believe ANYTHING they are telling you. It's always the same words. " I'll change, I'm sorry I really mean it..... I'll change" Then we fall and bend the rules, AGAIN. We drop our anger and we drop our decisions of walking away. We then are allowing the abuse to continue.  These abusers don't care about changing, they will not change unless we remove ourselves from the situation and allow them to see what they are doing.

Giving them the chance, to keep abusing is NOT LOVING THEM. It's only allowing them to keep hurting you, themselves and their life. If you are a Victim of Abuse. You HAVE TO WALK AWAY. Allow the person you LOVE to get the help that they deserve. If this is really love, If this man/woman really loves you, loves the relationship, loves their family. They are going to want the help, seek the help, get the help and walk a path of righteousness. They will find a way to make themselves better.

I know, a lot of people say that " once an abuser, always an abuser" that is NOT true. Alot of people who abuse their loved ones. have MANY emotional ISSUES that they have to deal with and have repressed angers. With therapy and counseling often this helps ... THEY CANNOT CHANGE without the help.

If you really love the person in your life who is abusing you, If your friend really loves their abusive partners. Tell them to walk away, walk out and allow them to get the help they seek.... If it's really ment to be it will happen all over again, once they are emotionally, mentally and psychologically healed

Do not hang around in the Abusive relationship waiting of the change to happen because it won't as long as u fall for the " I'll change speech" You are giving them another ticket to hurt, abuse you and hurt themselves more and more over and over again...............

If you are being physically abused........ call 911 and do not hesitate to walk away.............

*Love DOES NOT HURT*
 This is a song about Spousal Abuse *Love is Blind*
 

addicted to self induced pain?

Yesss! I'm coming back with a BANG. okay not a bang *L* but at least a hollerrrr..  I have experienced a few things these last few weeks. I have been dealing with certain people who i have really tried hard to help. Actually, lost money helping, lost time helping, lost alot of energy and at the end of these three weeks I'm looking around and I cannot see anything productive that has come out of it. It's almost like i spent my whole time speaking to myself.  I have been made fun of and called "Intelligent" with a smurk face more than once. Telling me, "Oh so your so intelligent.... why do you even care"  but... It's trying to get someone to understand that LIFE IS NOT ALWAYS FAIR but ITS ALWAYS going to have a PURPOSE regardless.

There's a time when you just have to let go trying to help someone who does not want to help themselves you cannot send yourself in a hole, even into depression for making someone else's life better. There is always going to be that someone who says "I'm never drinking again, because they feel sick then soon as they are better they got the bottle in their hand" There's always going to be the person who runs back into the abuser's arms after the fight is over. There will always be the people who are attracted to sadness, hardship. Now, from what i am feeing here always is that there are victims then there are those who LOVE TO BE playing the victim role., They can be the center of attention. get all the attention and then they go right back to the situation and all over again.

There is no way that we can help these people UNTIL they are completely, aware that they are addicted to self inflicted pain. Once they begin to understand what is really going on, they can begin accepting the help that you have to offer. until then it's going to be a battle with someone who does not listen

Reading online & offline

 I've been asked by  many people recently, who have just found me online or even offline at the mall or at the store. "hey, don't you do readings? How does it work? Can you do it online? is there a difference, online/offline? So here are some answers.

I have been doing readings online since 2002. I have been doing readings offline (at my home since 2004) There's no big different for me (I cannot speak for any other psychic/clairvoyant/tarot reader or medium) But for me online or offline the connection is the same as far as the delivery of the reading and the information given by my guides that I offer my clients. The only difference between online and offline readings is the compassion and the healing that can be given to clients by being face to face with me.

A smiling face is often something that everyone needs to see. Feeling like you have a friend in someone is important and ALOT of my clients who come to me face to face tell me, they enjoy spending some time with someone talking, laughing and hearing their truths with someone face to face because it's like meeting an old friend who knows them better than they know themselves. I'm not sure if that's a good thing lol :) But I enjoy helping as much as possible.

I do my readings through Email (Email readings are very detailed and clients have been satisfied for years)
I also do readings through Yahoo messenger and Msn messenger. (live readings)

Payments are always accepted in the same way (Paypal)

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I enjoy doing this and i do it FOR THE CLIENTS.  I am often misunderstood by those who do not understand or fear my work but for those who's lives I have touched and walk into daily.... They have good words for me... Those are the words that matter to me

You can always contact me for more information at
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The victim, Seriously. All the time?

It can happen, once or twice heck maybe three times.. BUT

There are situations in this life that we all fall into, We sometimes bump into a road we didn't want it, suffer at the hands and expense of someone else. We are sometimes, abused, neglected and we will sometimes feel alone and lonely.  But is it possible that we "also sometimes" create this for ourselves?
There are patterns with certain people, where they are always the victim. They start a rumor, at the end of the week they end up, caught and hurt (it's someone elses fault) 

They cheat on a test and end up, flunking in a class (it's someone elses fault)
They lie and cheat on their partner's get dumped. are left lonely and alone (oh it HAS TO BE something the other person did)

They are miserable and it's always because of him and her and them and anyone but themselves.

Only, once we accept that we are completely responsible for our actions and things that happen in our lives will we be able to be completely happy. It's start to stop complaining about what we don't want and act towards attracting what we do want.

no one wants a cry baby around. If your over the age of 25 and your still running to family and friends to get you through EVERYTHING because its EVERYONE's FAULT but your OWN you need a reality check. life is NOT easy. not for YOU not for ME but we have to work hard to get the happiness that we want.
accept responsibility, admit to not being perfect and watch how your life begins to change :)

Goodness.. can you be quiet?

Ever have someone in your life who you tried to help as much as possible. Whether it be a friend, lover or family member. You did everything in your power to help them get their life on track, get their heart and head on straight and then you finally realize all that hardwork and patience was a big whole waste of energy on your part because 90% of the things they told you they didn't do or did was just a bunch of made up, lies and some kind of fantasy in their own head and life? There comes a time when people like that have to be completely, cut out of your life. Why? Because as long as you keep people like this in your life, you will never progress because you are going to be drained.

Emotionally, and psychologically drained. We sometimes call these people Emotional Vampires because they suck the life, energy and happiness out of you so quickly, it's almost like spraying on cement on your body. There's so many people who don't realize that they are this way. I always call them the Lying/truths. They believe everything they tell, even if it's a lie. I mean if they tell you that they are Jesus! they are Jesus! Don't tell them no different. You ask them for the truth and honesty and they feed you "their truth" which equals a bold lie. That is not people you want to keep in your life. Clear these people out of your lives. It's not like it's a hard task to do, because you will be able to tell who these people are just from being around them you feel heavy, agitated and just confused at times. Because you cannot understand WHAT or WHY things are coming out of their mouths the way they are.

Sometimes you just gotta tell people to Just ~be QUIET~  

Love YOUR LFIE..... CLEAN UP the PEOPLE WHO SURROUND YOU :)

Stop waiting for someone to MAKE YOU LOVE YOU.

It really breaks my heart when certain people come my way and i hear them tell me that because they got left they are not worthy of a good man/woman. not worthy of happiness because something had to be wrong with them if their partner walked out on them. Perhaps the relationship, was just not ment to be. Perhaps that person was just not good enough for YOU. Perhaps there was more con's than pros in your relationship. Why is it that as soon as something goes wrong you want to turn things into being your fault.


Just because someone walks out of your life, Relationship, family, friends it does not mean that you automaticly become less of a loving person. You are suppose to love yourself no matter what. When you realize that no one can bring you down BUT YOURSELF. You will notice that you attract people that want to love you, cherish you and respect you. When you believe in giving everyone the ability to give you your worth your going to be sold short. someone is going to take advantage of you. You really need to not let people get the best of you.


When you say I AM WORTHY OF RESPECT and LOVE you will get nothing less because you won't tolerate it

His fault. Her fault. never my fault

Taking responsibilities for your own actions instead of blaming everyone around you. It's so easy to blame people. I will say that at the end of the day, you will get nowhere and learn nothing if you do not accept that sometimes you make mistakes, heck. We all make mistakes.

Yes! Even me, I am only human. It's easy ti blame the car infront of us for being late to work. Blame your ex boyfriend for being cranky and paranoid in every relationship. Blame your highschool teacher because you failed on a test. Blame your co-workers because you hate your job and you swear they are kissing the boss's butt.  It's sooo easy to focus on everything besides yourself.

Take the time to really think about things. Look at your life, what is going wrong in it? what do you want to change? Do you have the power to do something about it? Then do it, stop waiting for everything to fall on your lap. It's true that everything happens in divine timing and the path you are on has been written for you and this and that. but it does not mean you can and should go through your whole life, lazy and blaming all people surrounding you for your mistakes and the mishaps in your life.

The moment you take responsibility and work towards change in your own life. you will see things changing for the better for you. go ahead! TRY IT

The fear of change... WILL make your life hard.

There are times when we are so trapped into a downward spiral of self hate that the thought of change makes you feel sick. What if? What if not? What If?  These questions keep you back.... What if I end up alone and lonely if i leave this abusive relationship? You can answer that two ways,
What if i  leave and i'm soo happy and/or What if i stay and he/she kills me?

Don't you think that there is often a good reason to use a what if? but instead we use the what if's as negative statements and thoughts and it keeps us in the situations we are in. People are so afraid of the new, of the unknown, of change. They rather stay in their rotten livestyles, abusive relationships, drug infested life  than risk  feeling something brand new.

Self hate also comes from saying.. I hate my life. I hate that i don't have nothing. I hate that i'm broke. I hate that i'm trapped in this loveless marriage/relationship. I hate. I hate. I Hate. okay, so now that we established what you hate.  WHAT are YOU DOING to CHANGE your situation???
aaaaaaah!!!! There's the question right there... Isn't it time you start doing something to better your life, rather than complaining about what you don't  like? don't fear change.. it's for the better..

go! go! go!!   It's your life.. LIVE IT and LOVE IT

Loving yourself is letting go pt1

Loving yourself begins from a deep analysis of WHY and WHAT you don't like about yourself? If you think your fat, is it because someone always told you that you were fat? If you believe your stupid, did someone always call you dumb growing up? Do you feel your not worthy of real love? did someone abandon you while you were growing up, made you feel less than others, sisters, brothers, family?  You have to really sitt there and really think about it...

Once you have done that you have to realize that NO ONE can make you feel anything that you do not let them feel. You have to find it within yourself to compliment yourself every day about at least two things. Find something your good at, cooking? dressing up? being a mother? sing? draw? do you make people laugh? do you dance well? anything. find something you are good, at. give yourself credit

Don't wait for someone to compliment you because chances are you can wait forever, people these days are cruel and rather critic than compliment. you have to find the beauty within yourself, love yourself and always be dependent on no one but yourself.  You cannot allow your past to ruin your future....

We have to accept that we have been treated bad, neglected and made to feel less than human at one point in time in our lives but are we going to let that ruin our lives forever? that is allowing those people to win over you. You need to really sit there and focus on what you want in life and not allow no one to take that away from you. no one can take your happiness away but yourself

YOU make me PULL MY HAIR.. ARRGGH

Royalty? When? We all have a specific person, a friend a lover or a family member who swears they are royalty. Like everything you do for them is never good enough, if you do something it has to be right on time, not one minute late. Everything has to be perfect for them. You have to show them the most respect and speak to them in a specific tone cause if you don't they might just think your being "smart" Now, When it comes to these people, doing something for you or anyone else for that matter.....

They are always late, You have to repeat yourself more than three times. They get an attitude when you do, like rushing them is no fun, yet they rush you like your on the clock. They always find a way to critize what you do, or don't do. They will find a flaw in the best of your efforts. These people are very annoying to be around, Yet we LOVE THEM, why?

Because these people, deep down are the most loving and caring people in the world, being a grandmother, a lover or a friend.. These people have really NO IDEA that they are being this way, You can even tell them, Your being a real idiot right now and they look right at you like HUH?!?!

It takes, time and patience ESPECIALLY if this is someone you are in a Relationship, with. You have to really, let it be known often that they are being this way if you keep it in, bottled in its not going to help you any more than if you just argued with them all the time. The best approche? cool,calm and collective. Decent, grown conversation. Without yelling, pointing fingers and major accusations

The royalty with them is often something they have no idea about so sometimes we have to let them know. YOUR NOT always RIGHT and it's OKAY for OTHER PEOPLE to have OPINIONS also.    It's a rough ride but often worth it because these people are very loyal to their friends and loved ones.

Music Lifts your Spirits

Have you ever just felt like crap in the morning, gotten in your car turned the radio on or a cd and then all of a sudden your worries were lifted from you and you felt brand new? Have you ever heard a song that you usually would not listen too ie: a different genre. Then all of a sudden you feel like you could move mountains? This is because music is letters and sounds put together in every letter there is a sound that resonates through our souls. With every melodie there is also a sound that is also linked to our soul and that put together into a song, which carry emotions are cleansing and healing to the soul.

There are times if you listen to a bit more more of the same song or a little less of one. You would feel extremely better. Music is much more than what we perceive it to be as listeners only someone who composes the melodie/sounds, lyrics and other could possibly understand exactly what it means. I suggest that you start playing with music in order to figure it out for yourself, what works for you. what makes you want to grab a hold of your life, change it and make the most of your life. Try It. You won't be disappointed

There are a few songs based on melodies and letters alone mixed with the beats that are for uplifting I am going to suggest them in here and go ahead, try and see what happens :)


Beautiful you are (women especially)
fireflies (listen to this with your eyes closed)
Only Time
Feed The hungry

These are just a few... There's also vibrations to EVERY name on the planet. Yes! The way you spell your name can signify your luck in love, life, careers and even financially.

The Media is full of crap

There is so much hate in the world, these days. Everytime you turn on the tv someone has shot someone, someone got stabbed, someone was murdered, abducted, raped, abused, neglected.

Why can we never turn on the tv and see someone who has given a dollar to someone in need? Someone who helped someone do the dishes (as simple as it seems) someone who helped a man or woman who was stranded.  Of course not because media feeds off the negative and the bad things that happen in the world only makes me believe it attracts more and more.
People want to be famous or celebrities these days? kill someone or get pregnant at 15 your gonna be on the news hell you might even get your own show. It makes no sense whatsoever. I really want people to try everyday  to do something kind for someone else. You never know how much you can change someone's life with a simple act of kindness.

When you do something for someone do it from the heart, not with intentions of getting something back or getting recognition for it because then you might be let down do it because you want TO DO IT. If you take care of other people, the Universe will take care of you and BLESS YOU
It's YOUR life, LOVE it but allow someone else to LOVE theirs Also.

Some ME time PLEASE

There is only a certain amount of  Readings and Helping people someone like me can do A DAY. I LOVE MY CLIENTS. I LOVE OFFERING THEM GUIDANCE. But sometimes people have to understand that I NEED REST too. Without rest how can I be full of energy to help you and other people who need help? I do work around the clock, if someone needs me, I WILL wake up. But that does not mean that I DONT go to sleep. sometimes I do SLEEP and when I DO. I LOVE IT *L* SO please try to understand that I am only human.

I think that is the biggest misconception of Clairvoyant and Psychics is that because we do and know what we know that we can somehow function on other realms than regular people. no. We eat and Sleep and drink water like the rest of society. So next time someone is not online when you need them please, understand and don't send hate mail and aggressive letters because it won't help your case. I am not saying this is something that has happened to me, but it has happened to other people i know that clients expect them to be there twenty four seven  seven days a week. That's not possible.

Now Speaking of me, time. YOU all need me time.. So every day EVERYONE should take 1 hour for themselves. no MATTER how BUSY you are. You need some time to relax and take care of you. LIVE YOUR LIFE and LOVE YOUR LIFE

Loving YOURSELF

There are so many reasons to love yourself. The main one is that when you love yourself and respect yourself you don't have to worry about someone taking advantage of you,  because you will not stand for it nor tolerate it. I am serious, so many women tell me oh I love myself, I'm the shit.. uhhh? So why are you staying with a man who is abusing you? cheating on you? lying to you? They answer the same.. "Because I love him or Because I won't find no one else" Is that SELF LOVE? I seriously, doubt that very much.

Priorities need to get in order. If you LOVE yourself you don't allow someone to treat you wrong because you love them. Then there are those people who say they love themselves as they are, yet they say they want to lose weight but won't even TRY to do something for themselves, If you KNOW you want to lose weight, why buy that extra bag of chips or that extra burger? If you know your going to feel bad, sad and sick? People these days think, aaaah i love myself the way that i am, big or not well it's not really about THAT. If you REALLY loved yourself you would want to keep your body healthy from the inside out. Who cares if they make a dress that you can fit, does it mean that your heart and organs are healthy on the inside??? NO! So get yourself together and REALLY LOVE YOURSELF.  MOVE.MOVE. and eat healthy.. DO HAPPY. HEALTHY THINGS for yourself. LOOK IN THE MIRROR and SMILE then tell yourself your going to WALK. JOG. Do 1 sit up. DO SOMETHING for YOURSELF.

I myself, have been over-weight and I thought I loved myself, until i realized i was disrespecting my own BODY by not being good to it.. loading it up, with unhealthy things. I want to LIVE LONGER  you NEED to do the SAME

Love YOURSELF :)

Love does still exist

 There's so many ways to look at love, So many people over the years have used the words " I Love You" only to make them wrong. While lying and hurting people, using the only words we had to really show and let someone know we loved them truly. There is still real love out there. Loving someone where you listen to a song and it brings a moment in your heart that awakens and it brings butterflies in your stomach. There is still that love that when you see your partner of "X" number of years you still feel nervous, you still blush, you still look your best and get pretty/handsome for him/her. There is still the love where you put someone's needs before your own. wanting them to be happy, because just knowing that they are happy, makes you happy inside.

That's love that's not selfish. there are so many people these days that put restrictions on love and bad things on love. Oh IF he loved you he would do this and do that, if she loved you she would do this and that... WHO are YOU to say what is right and what is wrong? Just because someone does not agree with the way you are loving or being loved, does not make it wrong. Don't ever allow someone to tell you that your way of loving or being loved is not the "right way" now unless of course there is abuse involved because love is not abuse. not emotionally, spiritually, physically nor sexually no one suffers in love.

But I want people to know that real love does still exist sometimes it's not easy because when your in a relationship where real love is living. Things happen to test us. We bump into roads that have turns and bumps and dead ends, where we have to turn around and do it all over again with the same person just to let each-other know things are going to be alright. Whenever and Wherever there's real love. There's no need to fear because at the end of the day you can get through anything together.

Everyone argues, Everyone has disagreements. It's not because of an argument that you can let someone tell you that things are not real ... keep that in your head and in your heart..

It's your life... LOVE IT & LIVE IT

When you leave a psychic session

You often come for a reading, because you are feeling confused, sad, upset and your not sure exactly what is going on and you really need some insight and Guidance into your life. You often turn to Clairvoyants/Psychics and Healers Because we have most of the answers that you are searching for. When you leave a reading with us, You are suppose to feel happier, uplifted and have a sense of belonging in the world again. You are suppose to be feeling refreshed and almost like a car who just got a full tank of fuel.

Ready to face the world, without fears and doubts. So many people leave a psychic reading with more questions than answers. That's when you really got to question your reader. Are you only getting semi-answers in order to bring you back in? Are you getting answers that you can truly work with on your path? Is your reader doing all that's possible to make sure you are at peace and feeling easy by the time the reading is over? There's so much that falls into getting a reading and it's all about your happiness and calmness from within.

If you leave your reading and your feeling anxious and unhappy, unsure and uncertain about things. Chances are that reader may not be for you and you need to find someone else to work with. Someone who will put your need first of course with truth. Telling you the truth but working with you in finding happiness. I really believe a good reader is someone who can and will be there for you in a time of need.

Love YOUR LIFE and choose a READER that is GREAT TO YOU :)

It's the Simple things in life that bring happiness

It's the simple things in life, that bring real happiness. Diamonds, gold and material things are not going to get you very far in life, if you are not loved nor loving yourself. Those who love you because you already have all those materialistic things, won't stand by you when you would lose it all. Trust me, When it comes to love, the simple things mean and matter the most. When someone breaks up, with you. what is the first that that usually crosses your mind? I sure miss the damn toilet seat he left up, even when i complained about it. not " i miss the rings he use to buy me" That is never the first thing on someone's mind. Let's face it. We are all attracted to material things because it's installed into us from an early age. Those with money get more. If you knew how many people who are well off financially who are unhappy, in their personal life because all that money and nothing and no one worthy of sharing it with. Sometimes it's just not worth it.

Don't focus on being rich in life, focus on being happy and loved and loving. That is going to bring you more than money can ever do you for you. now, don't get me wrong. Money is great and we all love it, want it and need it. But at the end of the day. Money alone is NOT enough to keep you happy, completely happy. You have to aime higher than a nice pay check. Just try that. Focus on happy little things and you will notice that your riches improve on their own. Your money flow will increase just because you are not being greedy. Just because you settle for less but could use more. The universe will work with you. That's a Promise.

Its YOUR LIFE. Live it and LOVE IT

Focusing on the bad ruins it all

There are so many times where i catch myself speaking to people and at the end of my conversation with them. I'm just exhausted I feel like the world just landed on my shoulders. No matter how much you try to make a light joke, no matter how much you try to show them a bit of positive they are stuck on the negative. That really drags someone down. I wrote on my status today that if people stopped being so serious and took things light heartedly a bit more life would be so much better. The world would be a better place.

Look at children as prime examples. They don't know the worries of the world. They don't know what being bitter, angry, sour and just plain ignorant is. So they don't show any long-term emotion other than happiness. Sure they get mad and cry and scream when they want something (but that's them learning) after two minutes of that they are back to laughing and playing.  How many times can we say that something makes us angry, sad or just turns our world upside down and ten minutes later we are perfectly fine? not often. Most of us dwell on those things for whole days if not weeks.

If you learn to let things go, sure reflect on them, get mad, cry, scream and then get over it. You will see that your whole day does not have to be affected. Your whole life does not have to be shattered by something that happened that was out of your control to begin with. so many of us are spending too many hours in a day complaining, bitching and whining about things that we cannot change. So let's try to slow that down and eventually stop that. If you cannot control it, leave it alone. If it's out of your power don't try to over power it. You will only end up miserable with messed up days.

Enjoying your life, begins with you and how you handle things thrown your way.

Love Life

Progress, Does it mean leaving others behind?

There are times when it really feels like the world as given up, on you. Things are all falling apart, nothing seems to be working. People don't listen, everyone is judging you and misjudging you. It feels like your completely alone and like someone is holding you a prisoner in your own heart, life and soul. These are times where you have to look at yourself, from within. Did you do something to limit your own path? Are you keeping yourself in a situation that's not good for you? Are you trying to help someone who does not want to help themselves in life?  Waiting on your partner to progress while he's just sitting around not wanting to progress mentally and spiritually?

These are things that can have you feeling heavy and just stuck. A feeling of unknown and aggravation. It doesn't have to stay that way. You have the ability to move forward from any situation. Does that mean that you have to let go of your partner? of your friends? No it doesn't It means that you continue moving forward on your path, Doing what feels good to you. They will realize it's the right way to go, and follow (catch up) or they won't but that will be their decision. YOU will be fine... The only way for YOU to be fine is progress. 

It happens, so more often in Friendships than relationships because for the most part relationships are based on equal thought and emotions. (not often but we touch on that on another time) But Friendships are what causes confusion a lot of times.  Your friends with someone and it's the same routine, drinking, partying, going out, getting so drunk you can't remember things, doing too much of nothing and not enough of something. so all of a sudden your like okay. This is NOT productive. I need to change my life style.  What is going to happen is.

Your going to find a path of progression doing better for yourself, achieving things. Your friend is either going to say. wow. I can have all that too if i stop the lack of responsibility in your life and move forward or your friend is going to call you a trader and keep going with the drinking only to realize few years down the road that they missed out on a whole lot

At the end of the day you have to do what feels RIGHT to YOU. LIVE and LOVE YOURS LIFE.
You cannot make someone learn responsibility before their time. Some people will go through a whole lifetime of wasting years and end up 60 unhappy and nothing to fall back on. That is NOT your responsibility

If they follow, they follow. If they don't.... Do not stop yourself :)

Abusers and Abused.. men or women its NONO

How many times have we heard a friend, sister, brother...etc. Telling us that they got into an argument with their significant other and things got rough, either he slapped the crap out of her or she swung at him with a lamp. Do you really feel this is right? NO! Its completely wrong. NO one should ever raise their hands on someone they love. Dating abuse. Relationship Abuse. Marital Abuse all these things need to be stopped. It's not okay to remain in an abuse relationship. Now there's all kinds of Abuses but TODAY I am touching on the Physical aspect of things.

There is something in common that all abusers have, whether they are men or women. After the fact they are always sorry, they will never do it again. They are not sure what got into them. If someone is REALLY sorry, after the first time it happens, they will be signing up for counseling, therapy and anger management classes. If someone is NOT really sorry, They will just be OKAY until the next time they flip out and you get an ass-whipping again.

I want YOU (abused) To read this clearly. YOU are NOT to REMAIN a victim in a situation like this You are TO LEAVE. Go to a shelter for women (and there are some for men also) Call 911 do WHAT you have to do but leave that house before you end up, DEAD. It begins with slow fits of rage but escalates very quickly. It's NOT your fault. (unless you hit first then you are the ABUSER) but if you are not hitting and you get hit you are a VICTIM and you need to get help

I want YOU (The Abuser) To read this clearly. YOU are NOT to lay hands on a woman nor a man. You are going through repressed anger from the past. Perhaps even a past life. many factors key in here. It does not make you a bad person, but you really need some help. Call a psychologist, psychiatrist, doctor. Someoen who can help you understand your feelings and emotions and learn to control them. If you want to CHANGE there is a way....

The most important thing here. If you have CHILDREN PLEASE PLEASE leave right away, bring the kids. We do not need a world of children who have grown up to watch abusive behavior to keep the cycle going. Let's work today for a better more peaceful tomorrow.

It's all in YOUR hands

There are days when we wake up, feeling like we're the most beautiful person on the planet. Hair is just right, those jeans just fit extremely right. That shirt couldn't make you look more sexy even if you had asked for it. Your confidence shoots through the roof and you have one of them amazing days. Your out in public and your head is up, high. You smile at people who smile back at you. Your having a wonderful and Beautiful Day. Nothing can stop, you. Nothing Does.

Then the next day you wake up, Feeling like your bloated and ugly. Those jeans make you look fat and that shirt should be just a little longer to cover up, just that little bit of fat. ugh, and your hair... It's all over the place it won't stay straight the way you brushed it. You leave the house feeling on a short fuse. Your miserable inside, You walk with your head down and Your not smiling at no one. You feel less than confident and you imagine people looking at you are laughing inside and talking/thinking about you. so your sad and that turns into anger and looks of negativity. It's been one of your worst days this week.

Now after reading this, tell me. Who controls your happiness? YOURSELF. You tell yourself every morning I am BEAUTIFUL I am worth SMILING and RECEIVING smiles . I am going to be a GREAT day. I LOVE MYSELF and see how much greater your days are. When you wake up, not loving yourself and doubting yourself, The world is going to doubt you. When you love yourself. The World LOVES YOU

Is money evil? or is the need evil?

We are living in a time, Where LOVE is what we are ALL searching for but MONEY is what we really NEED. Society, Government has made money take over love. We are fighting in relationships because theres not enough money to go around. We are stressed because we are working two jobs in order to put food on the table. there's no time to sleep, Your husband or wife leaves for work when you get home for work. You no longer spending time together, as a family. Things are falling apart.

We need to realize that money is only going to be a problem, as long as we allow it to be a problem. The less we need it, the less we are looking for it the more it will come towards you. It's nothing new that we here people saying "aaah it's always the same ones that win the lottery or bingo. its the ones with the money that don't need it" That's because they do not focus on winning or getting money. they don't want it or need it.

Sure we all need money, because it does make the world go'round. But don't lose yourself voer a dollar. Don't risk your health, your relationship and your life over a dollar.  When you die, from stress you cannot take that dollar with you.

Focus on enjoying the simple things in life and You WILL be BLESSED with money. 

If you settle for 2nd.... You deserve second.....?

Before I begin this Post, I want EVERYONE to understand. I am NOT here to judge what YOU do Personally. But my post comes from MULTIPLE experience with FRIENDS. FAMILY and CLIENTS. It is not AIMED at anyone in particular but IT is The TRUTH.

Every day I have a session or a conversation with someone who is in love with someone who is married. Now, It's very possible that the married man/woman has feelings for you in return. It's very possible that there's a connection there that cannot be explained, that when you are together or around each other that the sparks are flying so high you feel like your surrounded by 1million light-bugs. I feel strongly that that is OKAY (it's not right, but it's okay) Because we are all human. The problem here is that the person who is married has a commitment to their partner and if they fail to WALK away from the marriage. Terminate things on the other end in order to move forward with you.


If this person is leading you on always telling you. OH we're going to end things. I am confused. I don't know how to do it. I want a bit more time.   STOP. THINK. REALLY THINK. Are you willing to be second ALL YOUR LIFE? Are you not worth more than this? a person who cheats once is NOT ALWAYS A CHEATER contrary to popular belief BUT. a dishonest person will always be a dishonest person.
What I mean by this is, you don't lead someone on, nor lie to the other person for a year because it JUST HAPPENED.


It's time to realize your OWN WORTH and move forward where you can BE NUMBER ONE in YOUR OWN LIFE. Then NUMBER ONE in someone's else's life, next to God and children in involved. STOP settling for second place next to another lover because your afraid of being alone.... Alone is NOT that bad.

Useless argument or Lesson in the making?

There's times in life where things happen that are completely out of our control. It's easy when we have a falling out with our best-friend or our significant other, parents. To blame them right off the bat. It's THEIR fault. I didn't do anything. okay, that's when you take a deep breath and you say. okay, I didn't do anything TODAY. Maybe the argument stems from something that has been done by you in the past. As friends and Lovers we often let things slide, but after enough is enough we tend to want to just OKAY. Your going to have to learn this the hard way and give someone a taste of their behavior.
It happens to the best of us, We always find it so much easier to blame someone else, than to actually consider that we're part of the problem, not the solution. What we have to learn is to become part of the solution. Work towards not pointing the finger so fast. Besides, we all learn from every situation in our lives. These are lessons to help us progress on our paths. If we don't learn, we don't progress.  Which means more than likely we're going to go through the same thing. over and over again until we learn the lesson which we are suppose to. So next time someone is angry with you, not speaking to you or just has words for you. Try not blaming them right away, try seeing what really happened to lead to this point.

I am not saying to be the subject of abuse because it's something you must of did. I'm talking about random little fights. not physical or psychologically abusive arguments/fights. I'm talking about those arguments you keep having over and over with the people in your life



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The Rain & The emotional Benefits

When we wake up, to seeing rain, We have a tendency to say awwww shyt, another boring rainy day. The rain is the earth cleansing itself, giving humidity to the ground in order to bring life to earth. What we need to do on rainy days is take some time to reflect on things. Cry, Write down your sorrows and problems. Then let the rain wash it away. When the sun shines again, forget about the negativity and the the attraction for the sun in your own life.

Forget about your can'ts and won'ts and focus on the I CAN and I WILL. The sun shinning again after a rainy day gives people energy an drive to go outside and do things again. So after you've flushed your heartaches with the rainy day. Your soul is ready for some positive.
So Let go of the rain and let the sunshine within you. so next time you wake up to a rainy day, don't curse. dont be dissapointed. Instead use this as your Emotional cleaning day......When the sun shines again everything will be fresh and right.......

You dont have to believe me, though...................... Try it

Love YOU be easy on YOURSELF

Let's be honest, no matter how beautiful you are. No matter how wonderful your life is. Your job is. Your kid(s) is/are. You will have one of those days where you wake up, feel like the world is sitting on you. That's one of those days that you are being tested. Stumble towards the sink, grab yourself a big tall glass of cold fresh water. Walk yourself into the bathroom or where your nearest mirror is. Smile. Smile at yourself, because you are BEAUTIFULL. No one, Nothing. Not words. No someone else's actions towards you. Should make you feel any less of a person.

You can sit there and ask yourself, all day "WHY ME?" But at the end of the day feeling sorry for yourself, has not be productive you haven't done anything to make your life better. To even get you out of the situation that your why-me'ing about. You haven't been progressive at all.  Instead ask yourself, WHY NOT ME, when looking at horrific moments in the world. You will soon realize that you are Blessed, more than you know.

It's easy to lose faith and confidence in yourself when it seems like the more you do, the harder you try. The more changes you make NO ONE NOTICES. YET if you forget one little thing everyone wants to point it out.

I've had clients tell me, no matter what i do, it goes unnoticed but if i mess up, a little bit. everyone notices. You know what? That's okay.... There''s nothing in life that will get you moving like a pack of hating critics.
To be honest at the end of the day, it does not matter WHO thinks WHAT of you. as long as you are respectful and loving to yourself and your children. The world will keep going if you don't do the dishes for once. If you take a nap, if you go get your hair done instead of cooking supper for someone. Eat out. Breathe easy. Do something FOR YOU. You will notice that the world will feel less heavy...
but don't believe me................ TRY IT